Reflection Of My Family

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1. The way in which every person in the family was born has affected the relationship and functioning of the family in some aspects. I do not believe the way my parents were born in their families has affected the relationship, but it has the fact that my father is older than my mother. As I was growing up, I have always been able to identify that my father always plays the protector role of the family. When he has to leave the house for a couple of days or months, he has always given us a plan just in case something happens. However, in the order that my siblings and I were born it has affected the family functioning. My sister Dalila is the oldest and she has always played the role of a second mother to my brother and myself. Since my brother …show more content…
A family theme that I believe that describes my family is “Us against the world”. I believe this fits my family perfectly because we never grew with cousins, aunts, or uncles. I have aunts, uncles, and cousins that I have no idea how they look or where they live mainly from my mother’s side. My father has always kept us isolated from either side of the family, except from our parents and one aunt (Ines, mother side). The reason is because of the drama that extended family brings a lot of times.
7. Anger has been expressed very differently depending on the family member. For example, I am very explosive when I get angry to the point where everyone just ignores me. Both of my parents are not explosive when they get angry, usually my mother is the one who is more verbal then my father. My sister can be verbal aggressive at times and my brother he really does not show emotions; however, when he is mad he does not speak at al. Whenever the family will have arguments they never lead to violence, cut-off, or depression. My father does not hold grudges, gets mad one hour then later
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Can you identify an overfunction/ underfunction reciprocity dynamic in your family of origin? In your current family? There is overfunctioning in my family, for example while we were smaller my brother would always do my chores for me. The reason was because I did not want to do my chores; therefore, he would do them so my mother would not get mad. Furthermore, my father has always worked more than 40 hours a week. I am an underfunctioner in the family because as growing up my brother would take responsibility for my actions. Now, I am overfunctioning in my family because I am who does the bills, and often translate for my

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