Addiction is a disease that has spread into an epidemic. However, this book’s main focus is to ultimately help the struggling addict and their family overcome hardships and successfully find recovery. They will achieve this by using the “six principals of good recovery” that concentrate on both the process and the outcome perspective (Shumway & Kimball, 2012, p.3). The six principals include: hope, healthy coping skills, achievement and accomplishment, capacity for meaningful relationships, unique identity development, and reclamation of agency. The first of the six essentials on the road to recovery is hope, defined as “a reawakening after despair” and “to expect with greater confidence” (Shumway & Kimball, 2012, p.9) When the addict hits
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The better your recovery is going the greater capacity you will develop to maintain relationships. Addiction causes pain that ultimately creates a wall preventing meaningful connections to be made. Relational dynamics often amplify addiction related problems, so it is important to set solid boundaries and “hold the line” by using four key elements that end with reevaluation and appropriate adjustments (Shumway & Kimball, 2012, p.72). However, a result of crossing boundaries in a family environment are unhealthy roles that attempt to keep the system together. These roles include the user, enabler, hero, scapegoat, lost child, and the mascot, but it is possible to create new and healthy recovery roles. Recovery promotes moving away from the control, manipulation, and selfishness addiction breathes into you and to move forward and create reciprocal relationships; starting first with God. Give Him your will and He will give you much more in return. When you start and maintain a cycle of reciprocity then everyone becomes more likable, and that is a major key to long-term relationships. Addiction is a killer of likability, but trust is part of the foundation of recovery that can rebuild destroyed relationships. Six ideas are mentioned, including small talk, that help rebuild likability and …show more content…
That is why developing a unique identity is a critical outcome during this journey. From an early age, we naturally allow the negative things people say define our worth. For an addict, those negative words from others and ourselves are magnified and unhealthy. To resist negativity, write down positive affirmations, despite the fact that your body will try to reject them at first. Getting over the pain curve involved with change puts you on track to developing a more positive identity. Once you habitually value-nurture you begin to internalize the positivity you feel for yourself and discover your unique identity. Positive identity is supported by healthy choices, better coping, and greater levels of achievement. However, some pitfalls include contradictory and unrealistic messages from others trying define your identity and the use of old self-perceptions. Fight this through boundaries and avoidance of negative self-talk. If you relapse do not listen to the negativity, but instead call to God for help and/or serve others. The more you progress through recovery the more empathy you gain and positive value you will see your
The better your recovery is going the greater capacity you will develop to maintain relationships. Addiction causes pain that ultimately creates a wall preventing meaningful connections to be made. Relational dynamics often amplify addiction related problems, so it is important to set solid boundaries and “hold the line” by using four key elements that end with reevaluation and appropriate adjustments (Shumway & Kimball, 2012, p.72). However, a result of crossing boundaries in a family environment are unhealthy roles that attempt to keep the system together. These roles include the user, enabler, hero, scapegoat, lost child, and the mascot, but it is possible to create new and healthy recovery roles. Recovery promotes moving away from the control, manipulation, and selfishness addiction breathes into you and to move forward and create reciprocal relationships; starting first with God. Give Him your will and He will give you much more in return. When you start and maintain a cycle of reciprocity then everyone becomes more likable, and that is a major key to long-term relationships. Addiction is a killer of likability, but trust is part of the foundation of recovery that can rebuild destroyed relationships. Six ideas are mentioned, including small talk, that help rebuild likability and …show more content…
That is why developing a unique identity is a critical outcome during this journey. From an early age, we naturally allow the negative things people say define our worth. For an addict, those negative words from others and ourselves are magnified and unhealthy. To resist negativity, write down positive affirmations, despite the fact that your body will try to reject them at first. Getting over the pain curve involved with change puts you on track to developing a more positive identity. Once you habitually value-nurture you begin to internalize the positivity you feel for yourself and discover your unique identity. Positive identity is supported by healthy choices, better coping, and greater levels of achievement. However, some pitfalls include contradictory and unrealistic messages from others trying define your identity and the use of old self-perceptions. Fight this through boundaries and avoidance of negative self-talk. If you relapse do not listen to the negativity, but instead call to God for help and/or serve others. The more you progress through recovery the more empathy you gain and positive value you will see your