Psychoanalysts Jessica Benjamin discusses the notion of recognition and the destruction of others in the process of becoming independent while realizing the tension between one another through the example of mother and child. In her essay “Recognition and Destruction: An Outline of Intersubjectivity" (found on canvas) she explains the self’s wish to become independent through the destruction of the other and to be recognized. A conflict arises from this idea because each self wants to be recognized by the other but does not want to be affected by the other as well. Furthermore, the idea of the self wanting to be recognized and truly independent comes from Hegel’s "Phenomelogy of human spirit" where individuals are trying to reach their independence
