As we delve deeper into our theories on interpersonal communication, we begin to learn more about ourselves and how to interact with the people around us. Whether they are in our lives on a personal, professional or combined capacity. This week I have decided to look at the theories of Interactional View and Genderlect Styles (Griffin, 2015). When we study Interactional View, a theory developed by Paul Watzlawick, we can see how communication has shaped us into the people we are today. Watzlawick uses axioms to describe his theory. They are: one cannot not communicate, communication = content + relationship, the nature of a relationship depends on how both parties punctuate the communication sequence, and all communication is either symmetrical
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This axiom didn’t take long to build. It probably helped we are older and have been married before. Also, we have learned techniques over our careers to help pick out non-verbals. Her facial expressions usually tell me everything I need to know. Without a word I know if she is happy, sad or mad at me (especially the mad part). We actually perform quite a bit of non-verbals to express our feelings with each other. That doesn’t mean we never talk; it only suggests that we know each other enough to be able to give a look, body movement or touch to show how we …show more content…
For the most part yes we are different. Especially when it comes to the “women’s desire for connection vs. men’s desire for status” (Griffin, 2015, p. 433). We have recently moved across the country to be closer to my father for health reasons. Right now my wife is working and I am not. We both get a retirement from the military and we make good money with that and her paycheck. She wants me to stay home and focus on college and get things fixed in our new home. I see her point of view, however in my male feeling of status I don’t feel comfortable sitting at home. It’s not that I feel inadequate cooking or cleaning the house (I love to cook and actually prefer to). It is my raising, that has made me feel that I need to be the one working and providing. Having that status of
This axiom didn’t take long to build. It probably helped we are older and have been married before. Also, we have learned techniques over our careers to help pick out non-verbals. Her facial expressions usually tell me everything I need to know. Without a word I know if she is happy, sad or mad at me (especially the mad part). We actually perform quite a bit of non-verbals to express our feelings with each other. That doesn’t mean we never talk; it only suggests that we know each other enough to be able to give a look, body movement or touch to show how we …show more content…
For the most part yes we are different. Especially when it comes to the “women’s desire for connection vs. men’s desire for status” (Griffin, 2015, p. 433). We have recently moved across the country to be closer to my father for health reasons. Right now my wife is working and I am not. We both get a retirement from the military and we make good money with that and her paycheck. She wants me to stay home and focus on college and get things fixed in our new home. I see her point of view, however in my male feeling of status I don’t feel comfortable sitting at home. It’s not that I feel inadequate cooking or cleaning the house (I love to cook and actually prefer to). It is my raising, that has made me feel that I need to be the one working and providing. Having that status of