Responses to Conflict Typically, the approaches I use to respond to conflict include The Exit Response, where I avoid a discussion entirely because I don’t want to get into a confrontation usually due to time constraints, The Loyalty Response, when I care enough about the other person so as to listen and participate in a solution, or The Voice Response, when I have a close commitment to the other person and conflict is necessary for growth and closeness (Wood, 2013). I never consider The Neglect Response unless I can interpret the other party’s intention as non-serious or sarcastic. Constructive conflict communication is learned. We are either blessed with parents and other family members that taught us good communication skills or we have
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I communicated ineffectively and unproductively (Wood, 2013). I not only hurt my daughter’s feelings, I hurt our future relationship for a long time. On the other hand, some may say I did well in practicing tough love. The only problem is that in my culture, such practices are not validated as appropriate. I could not live with myself for the condemnation of the words I had spoken to my daughter. I still feel to this day that I owe her an apology to relieve her of any condemnation of spirit and soul. I felt for a long time that she owed me an apology for her irresponsible behavior. We really never made amends to each other. I still wonder if she still feels resentful of me for my choice of words, and my lack of commitment that night. Perhaps apologies are still …show more content…
I accept that I avoided any additional discussion with Janice to protect myself from incurring a nervous breakdown, or worse a heart attack. I felt the need to withdraw and collect my thoughts in order to deal with the crisis at hand. This was an adrenaline fight or flight situation, and I chose flight! I bailed out for my own sanity. However, I bailed out on my daughter who needed it me, and I should have chosen to collaborate in assisting my daughter to an immediate solution for the sake of her safety, and the future of our long-term
I communicated ineffectively and unproductively (Wood, 2013). I not only hurt my daughter’s feelings, I hurt our future relationship for a long time. On the other hand, some may say I did well in practicing tough love. The only problem is that in my culture, such practices are not validated as appropriate. I could not live with myself for the condemnation of the words I had spoken to my daughter. I still feel to this day that I owe her an apology to relieve her of any condemnation of spirit and soul. I felt for a long time that she owed me an apology for her irresponsible behavior. We really never made amends to each other. I still wonder if she still feels resentful of me for my choice of words, and my lack of commitment that night. Perhaps apologies are still …show more content…
I accept that I avoided any additional discussion with Janice to protect myself from incurring a nervous breakdown, or worse a heart attack. I felt the need to withdraw and collect my thoughts in order to deal with the crisis at hand. This was an adrenaline fight or flight situation, and I chose flight! I bailed out for my own sanity. However, I bailed out on my daughter who needed it me, and I should have chosen to collaborate in assisting my daughter to an immediate solution for the sake of her safety, and the future of our long-term