4. Checklist. For the relationship satisfaction checklist of the assessment, the results reflect that this is an area of strength. Both Tina and I had the same answers for the following issues: Financial Matters, Communication, Substance/chemical use, Religion/Spirituality, My weight, My partner’s weight, Who’s in charge, Time spent using media such as video games, the internet or television, Types of media used such as violent or sexually oriented media, Having Children, Rearing Children and Roles. Ideas were we had a slight difference were: Time spent together, Intimacy/Sexuality, Our Parents, and Our Partner’s Parents. When discussing these among each other, we came to the conclusion that these problem areas where slanted in our favor because
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Currently the only financial matters we are involved in together is when we are determining whose turn it is to pay for movie tickets or who is picking up the bill for dinner. If we under the same roof, then we would also need to take into account how to divide the utilities and whether or not we wanted to consolidate our personal expenses. One thing I attempt to hide from her is the excessive amount of time I play video games during winter break, so that could be a potential problem for her if were living together. We never had a direct conversion about having children. As of now, our strategy is not to have kids and we take the necessary precautions which led to the challenge of lack of sexual intimacy. Another challenge that we can see on in the near foreseeable is how our time spent together will change after graduation. She plans to attend graduate school in Iowa and the law school I want to attend is in Ohio, which would put Indiana and Illinois, which is ironically the states we grew up in, between …show more content…
Overall reaction. Overall, Tina and I felt this was a positive experience because it helped us grasp a better understanding of each other as well as a good conversation starter for us to discuss the direct of which things are going. It helped us realize that we are both growing into different people with different ambitions and desires. Things would be a lot simpler if we could remain students at Ball State because this environment is what caused our relationship to thrive, but it is inevitable that we must leave in order to pursue our goals. The most relevant section was the Emotional Readiness section because I was able to understand how her applying to grad schools is an emotionally draining the process was for her. We felt the least relevant section was the problem area check list because we felt overall it was not a measurement of our strengths, but rather a reflection of our inexperience. So, for that reason I did not agree with all the ratings because it reflected positively on issues we were not familiar with. The most surprising aspect was how dissatisfied we both were in the sexual satisfaction department. We both know how we hardly engage in intercourse, but we did not realize we were both unhappy with it. I would recommend the RELATE tool to any couple because it will help map out the direction of the relationship. It will not fix the relationship, but it will encourage the couple to start talking things out to see where they stand on issues and
Currently the only financial matters we are involved in together is when we are determining whose turn it is to pay for movie tickets or who is picking up the bill for dinner. If we under the same roof, then we would also need to take into account how to divide the utilities and whether or not we wanted to consolidate our personal expenses. One thing I attempt to hide from her is the excessive amount of time I play video games during winter break, so that could be a potential problem for her if were living together. We never had a direct conversion about having children. As of now, our strategy is not to have kids and we take the necessary precautions which led to the challenge of lack of sexual intimacy. Another challenge that we can see on in the near foreseeable is how our time spent together will change after graduation. She plans to attend graduate school in Iowa and the law school I want to attend is in Ohio, which would put Indiana and Illinois, which is ironically the states we grew up in, between …show more content…
Overall reaction. Overall, Tina and I felt this was a positive experience because it helped us grasp a better understanding of each other as well as a good conversation starter for us to discuss the direct of which things are going. It helped us realize that we are both growing into different people with different ambitions and desires. Things would be a lot simpler if we could remain students at Ball State because this environment is what caused our relationship to thrive, but it is inevitable that we must leave in order to pursue our goals. The most relevant section was the Emotional Readiness section because I was able to understand how her applying to grad schools is an emotionally draining the process was for her. We felt the least relevant section was the problem area check list because we felt overall it was not a measurement of our strengths, but rather a reflection of our inexperience. So, for that reason I did not agree with all the ratings because it reflected positively on issues we were not familiar with. The most surprising aspect was how dissatisfied we both were in the sexual satisfaction department. We both know how we hardly engage in intercourse, but we did not realize we were both unhappy with it. I would recommend the RELATE tool to any couple because it will help map out the direction of the relationship. It will not fix the relationship, but it will encourage the couple to start talking things out to see where they stand on issues and