What I’ve learned from the emotional needs questionnaire is that my top 5 emotional needs are affection, financial support, honesty and openness, intimate conversation, and sexual fulfillment. These needs and others not listed are vital to basic human survival. Every human express or share these needs, but each differ in strength. What needs give me the most value are the ones that highly motivates me as a person. I’ve learned that if my emotional needs are not met my stress level is high, my coping tool are working properly, and my personality changes for the worst.
Affection
Willard Harley validates in chapter 3 of his book “His Needs, Her Needs” what affection means to a woman. His title states “The First Thing She Can’t Do Without—Affection” …show more content…
Theirs nothing better than intimate converstion to get your spouse in the mood. Intimate conversation leds to sexual fulfillment. I can remember when I was dating my ex-husband, we talked all the time. He called me all the time, that’s all we did was talk, but after we got married, it was less conversation. Harley states three reason whay converstion is important. First, cibversation is essential for other importanct emotional needs are met. Secondly, it’s necessary for everyday problem solving and conflict resolution. Thridly, its what women need to get their emotional needs met, we like to talk (Harley, 2011, …show more content…
My ex-husband did show me affection at times, but not the the point of feeling secure in our relationship. I was always worried about bills, the kids needs, his needs and putting my needs on the back burner. My emotional needs are a train reck waiting to happen. I’ve isolated myself because of my emotional needs are not being met. I do realize that being marriage is work. I’ve been their and I have married friends. I don’t want to rush into anything that will hinder my walk with the Lord, so I wait for my status to change, when He says it time. I’m older now and my ability or willingness to tolerate people, place and things has deminshed. I realized that in the past I was a giver of myself and not a taker. I did what ever I could to make the other person happy, even if I was unhappy. I thought that this was a cruse, because I was the one being hurt all the time. Giving is a part of who I am as a person, so I’ve leaned to embrace it, as well as, place limits and boundary. I can reflected on the fact that not all emotional need are equal, but they should have some kind of visibility in your relationship to keep the marriage in
Affection
Willard Harley validates in chapter 3 of his book “His Needs, Her Needs” what affection means to a woman. His title states “The First Thing She Can’t Do Without—Affection” …show more content…
Theirs nothing better than intimate converstion to get your spouse in the mood. Intimate conversation leds to sexual fulfillment. I can remember when I was dating my ex-husband, we talked all the time. He called me all the time, that’s all we did was talk, but after we got married, it was less conversation. Harley states three reason whay converstion is important. First, cibversation is essential for other importanct emotional needs are met. Secondly, it’s necessary for everyday problem solving and conflict resolution. Thridly, its what women need to get their emotional needs met, we like to talk (Harley, 2011, …show more content…
My ex-husband did show me affection at times, but not the the point of feeling secure in our relationship. I was always worried about bills, the kids needs, his needs and putting my needs on the back burner. My emotional needs are a train reck waiting to happen. I’ve isolated myself because of my emotional needs are not being met. I do realize that being marriage is work. I’ve been their and I have married friends. I don’t want to rush into anything that will hinder my walk with the Lord, so I wait for my status to change, when He says it time. I’m older now and my ability or willingness to tolerate people, place and things has deminshed. I realized that in the past I was a giver of myself and not a taker. I did what ever I could to make the other person happy, even if I was unhappy. I thought that this was a cruse, because I was the one being hurt all the time. Giving is a part of who I am as a person, so I’ve leaned to embrace it, as well as, place limits and boundary. I can reflected on the fact that not all emotional need are equal, but they should have some kind of visibility in your relationship to keep the marriage in