Pros And Cons Of Enduring Love

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Chapter 10: 1.) Relationship rules are guidelines that friends and romantic partners have in their relationships. Usually, relationship rules are tacit, not explicit, understandings.
Robin William’s was a close friend of Christopher Reeve’s. He understood what Chris was going through and helped him to realize that he was going to be okay. Christopher’s spirits were lifted after Robin paid him a surprise visit, because he pretended to be a Russia proctologist who was going to perform a rectal exam.
2.) External tensions are relationship stressors that grow out of the situation or context surrounding the relationship.
The Reeve’s family had to make changes to their daily lives to adjust to Christopher’s paralysis. They all had to evolve with
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They shared a passion for their work and Christopher was a crusader for causes that he believed in.
2.) Eros is a powerful, passionate style of love that blazes to life suddenly and dramatically.
Storge love is a comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility.
Agape love is a secondary style of loving that is selfless and based on giving to others, not on receiving rewards or returns from them. It is a blend of Eros and storge.
In my opinion, Christopher and Dana had all of these love types because their love for each other was powerful, they were comfortable with each other even after the accident that cause Chris to become paralyzed, and they had the selfless love because they gave to each other and other’s without expecting anything in return for themselves. I believe that the love that they had for each other helped their relationship to survive and it helped Chris to live a lot longer than what they thought he would of.
Chapter 12: 1.) Vital marriage is a type of relationship that the couple is very close emotionally and wants to be together physically as much as possible. For these couples, the relationship is their primary source of satisfaction and
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Each has separate interests and sources of satisfaction, yet they look forward to being with each other and schedule their lives to maximize time together.
Chris and Dana’s marriage was vital because they were very close emotionally and she was the one that got him to believe in marriage. They also had a total marriage type because they both had different interests. Chris was extraordinary, talented and was willing to take risks. Dana was interested in singing. Despite their differences they truly loved each other, but they described a truly boundless love that survived the difficulties that they had and it was stronger on the other side.
2.) Social exchange theory is the theory that people apply economic principles to evaluate their relationships in terms of costs and benefits, and that people are satisfied only in relationships in which the benefits outweigh the costs.
In my opinion social exchange theory fits with Chris and Dana because they evaluated their relationship in terms of costs and benefits of his paralysis. They didn’t care about the cost, they were more worried about the benefits of getting Chris stronger and possibly

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