I have a 16-year-old brother. As I watch him grow up I am slowly starting to see him grow into the person he is going to be. I try everyday to teach my brother to be a feminist and to treat women with nothing by the upmost respect. I am confident that he practices what I have taught him in his interactions with women. When I decided to tell my parents about my assault, I always considered telling my brother. My parents asked me why I wanted to tell him. I guess, I wanted to him to know how much of a reality sexual assault really is. When I was his age, I did not hear about or know much about sexual assault and I guess I thought by telling him it would show him this can happen to anyone. Maybe by telling him, the next time one of his male friends at school makes a derogatory comment about a women’s body he will stand up and tell his friend that it is not okay. In this way, my brother can become a male ally to me and a male ally to the women in his grade. I remember being in high school and the cat-calling, sexualization of girls starts at such a young age. I know he is only one person, but hopefully one day when I tell him what happened to me he can help stop the cycle before it begins for some of the young men he is friends
I have a 16-year-old brother. As I watch him grow up I am slowly starting to see him grow into the person he is going to be. I try everyday to teach my brother to be a feminist and to treat women with nothing by the upmost respect. I am confident that he practices what I have taught him in his interactions with women. When I decided to tell my parents about my assault, I always considered telling my brother. My parents asked me why I wanted to tell him. I guess, I wanted to him to know how much of a reality sexual assault really is. When I was his age, I did not hear about or know much about sexual assault and I guess I thought by telling him it would show him this can happen to anyone. Maybe by telling him, the next time one of his male friends at school makes a derogatory comment about a women’s body he will stand up and tell his friend that it is not okay. In this way, my brother can become a male ally to me and a male ally to the women in his grade. I remember being in high school and the cat-calling, sexualization of girls starts at such a young age. I know he is only one person, but hopefully one day when I tell him what happened to me he can help stop the cycle before it begins for some of the young men he is friends