Whether to use physical punishment to discipline your child or not is a personal choice determined many a times by your social and cultural backgrounds. You may not get arrested or sent to jail because you beat your child to stop him from misbehaving. Of course you love him and he loves you too. A tight hug or a sweet kiss will make him forget that you beat him a few minutes ago. Having said that, when it comes to disciplining, physical punishment may not be a good idea. Experts suggest that beating and spanking negatively impact young children’s sub-conscious mind and might even give them wrong ideas about social as well as emotional values. Here are 10 reasons why you shouldn’t use physical punishment as a disciplining method:
1. It sends …show more content…
He may interpret this message in dangerous ways later on in his social interactions. Repeated use of physical punishment may give him a wrong idea that he will get to control you once he becomes stronger and bigger than you. Is that desirable?
2. It shows that violence can be used to solve problems
From your point of view physical punishment is nothing but a measure to stop your child from misbehaving. But what is the message he is getting? He misbehaves, you beat him and things come under control, and hence physical force and violence can be legitimately used to solve problems. Wouldn’t he be tempted to follow the same pattern when he confronts problems and disagreements in his school or when he plays cricket with his friends?
3. It gives the impression that adults have the right to hit children
Suppose you beat your child for hitting someone. He is being punished for using physical force, but at the same time he is expected to be passive when you spank him. He gets an impression that adults have the right to beat or physically punish younger and smaller kids. As he internalizes this idea, he becomes incapable of responding to any form of physical abuse, including sexual abuse from …show more content…
It makes him feel frightened, insecure and confused. A safe and fearless environment is necessary for children to learn new things, be it social skills or behavior. Scientific studies argue that it is biologically impossible for human beings to learn new things when they feel fearful and are under the influence of adrenalin. If you want your kid to learn a lesson or two from his mistakes, you should provide a fearless atmosphere where learning can happen.
8. It distances your child from you
Imagine your child did a something wrong and he doesn’t know how to correct it. Ideally he should be coming to you for advice. But if you have already established a pattern of physical punishment for the mistakes he makes, he will feel less inclined to come to you seeking solutions. A strong parent-child relationship has its foundations on effective communication. The more you punish your child, the more he keeps himself away from you.
9. It perpetuates dishonesty and lying
If your child knows that he will be beaten up for his mistakes, he will be tempted to cover his mistakes rather than confronting them. He will start lying and exhibiting dishonest behavior just to avoid punishment. Although your aim is to make him a better human being through physical punishment, it in fact is backfiring on
1. It sends …show more content…
He may interpret this message in dangerous ways later on in his social interactions. Repeated use of physical punishment may give him a wrong idea that he will get to control you once he becomes stronger and bigger than you. Is that desirable?
2. It shows that violence can be used to solve problems
From your point of view physical punishment is nothing but a measure to stop your child from misbehaving. But what is the message he is getting? He misbehaves, you beat him and things come under control, and hence physical force and violence can be legitimately used to solve problems. Wouldn’t he be tempted to follow the same pattern when he confronts problems and disagreements in his school or when he plays cricket with his friends?
3. It gives the impression that adults have the right to hit children
Suppose you beat your child for hitting someone. He is being punished for using physical force, but at the same time he is expected to be passive when you spank him. He gets an impression that adults have the right to beat or physically punish younger and smaller kids. As he internalizes this idea, he becomes incapable of responding to any form of physical abuse, including sexual abuse from …show more content…
It makes him feel frightened, insecure and confused. A safe and fearless environment is necessary for children to learn new things, be it social skills or behavior. Scientific studies argue that it is biologically impossible for human beings to learn new things when they feel fearful and are under the influence of adrenalin. If you want your kid to learn a lesson or two from his mistakes, you should provide a fearless atmosphere where learning can happen.
8. It distances your child from you
Imagine your child did a something wrong and he doesn’t know how to correct it. Ideally he should be coming to you for advice. But if you have already established a pattern of physical punishment for the mistakes he makes, he will feel less inclined to come to you seeking solutions. A strong parent-child relationship has its foundations on effective communication. The more you punish your child, the more he keeps himself away from you.
9. It perpetuates dishonesty and lying
If your child knows that he will be beaten up for his mistakes, he will be tempted to cover his mistakes rather than confronting them. He will start lying and exhibiting dishonest behavior just to avoid punishment. Although your aim is to make him a better human being through physical punishment, it in fact is backfiring on