Traditional Marriage Research Paper

When the honeymoon is over sometimes life can get you down. If the person you love has broken the vows that you believed in strongly, it can be hard to bounce back. Although you may be feeling like the world is over, and life cannot possibly go on, I’m here to tell you it can. Life is hard. Marriage is hard. Getting over infidelity is hard, but it is possible. Every situation is different, but these steps might help and if they don’t it might be time to move on. Firstly, if you happen to find out that your spouse is having an affair, go ahead and have that mental break down. You might need to take a few day to process the information, so get away. Rent a cabin, go stay with a friend or family member. You don’t need to discuss anything with …show more content…
If there is a true wanting for the marriage to work, both you and your spouse will put in the effort to make this work. Make sure you both understand that the trust you had is broken, and trust will take time to rebuild. Start by setting clear goals and boundaries. At this time there should be no secrets, transparency is key. For you to feel comfortable, your partner will need to be completely honest with you, so no grey areas. Try to talk to each other again. Set a time each day to talk, not fight. After agreeing to try and make things work, bringing up the past will only slow the process or stop it completely. Although the past still hurts and you may want to fight about it, what do you want more to fight or a better marriage? When moving forward, let the past go, but never forget what happened. You may eventually forgive your …show more content…
Try going to new places, this might be an adventure neither of you have done, or a new restaurant. If your spouse is sorry and wants to take you out, let them. If they want to apologize every day for the pain they caused you, let them. Learn to enjoy each other after the pain has subsided. Although it is recommend that you take time together, time a part will be also be a necessity. Take some time to look at yourself, find out who you are. You may feel like you don’t know anymore. So explore your thoughts, if you find things you want to change, change them. Take a class, dye your hair or start exercising. All things that are reasonable, within the boundaries you and your spouse have set, are ok. Finding yourself and feeling confident in who you are, will help both you and your spouse move forward. Sometimes things need to change, that doesn’t mean making yourself what your spouse wants, but what you