Perspectives On Marriage's Benefits And Challenges

Perspectives on Marriage’s Benefits and Challenges

Perspectives can change with age and experiences. Well-developed perspectives can help pass on wisdom and advice. For this paper, I learned the perspectives of a couple who have been married more than thirty years, a newly married couple, and a person who is single. There was some overlap in thoughts between the subjects’ answers and there was also some variability. It was thoroughly enjoyable to gain advice and to try to understand each person’s marriage view and observe the nonverbal and verbal expressions of the married couples. In Industrial-Organizational psychology, we learned that when there is a realistic job preview, there will be less candidates for a job, but a lower rate of those …show more content…
They have been married thirty and a half years. I knew they would be a great couple to interview. They teach their own marriage class/bible study in Colorado Springs and I can plainly see the deep love they have for each other. The way they responded to my interview questions also reflected their love, not just in the words they were saying, but also by the way they interacted with each other. My first question was, “What are the benefits of marriage?” My uncle jokingly replied with, “Three square meals a day with variety.” His wife laughed and rolled her eyes- knowing that their marriage meant more to him than the basic necessity of food, the real answer being companionship and support for each other. They find comfort in knowing there is always someone to depend on, talk to, and that will be there no matter what- especially with medical issues. Each appreciates the support that the other spouse gives when he or she is going through hard times individually and together. They also enjoy the fact that they can support their children together and in the same way. Mary said, “There’s no one else that can share that joy [from your children’s accomplishments] with you like your spouse can, because you both raised them.” They listed other benefits of marriage: living longer and happier, God’s design, tax, etc. It was interesting to hear them name some of the very benefits we mentioned in …show more content…
However, she wants to begin dating after college and plans to eventually get married. Jackie assumes from observing her parents and other family members that benefits of marriage would be having another person to do life with and support you as you go through life. She realizes that the other person will not solve her problems, but will provide encouragement. As a person who is single, she knows the benefits of singleness are only worrying about yourself, focusing on your own problems and not someone else’s (not burdened), and focusing on only your goals/ what you want to