What´s Emotional Intelligence?

We find it actually very difficult to connect with others and with ourselves. We come across so many people who are good at maintaining their relationships with family, friends and at workplace too. We usually perceive them as good listeners, no matter in which kind of situation they are they always know what to say and how to say. These kind of people are actually masters of managing their emotions the don’t get frustrated in stressful situations, instead they have the ability to look into the problem in a practical way. They don’t jump onto the conclusions before looking into every aspect of it. They are incredible in decision making and they know when to trust whom. They are always open to criticism and they always have a corner for …show more content…
According to Mayer & Salvoes (1997) Emotional Intelligence is to master emotions in respect of perceiving, accessing and generating them. It also covers the aspects of reflectively regulating emotions to enhance intellectual and emotional growth. The concept of emotional intelligence was originally given by an American psychologist Daniel Goleman in 1995. Emotional intelligence is the ability to know your emotions and of others too. Emotional intelligence is different from intellectual intelligence because it can be learnt and acquired while intellectual intelligence is acquired. Emotional intelligence can be learnt at any point in time along with social skills. They both work together in shaping the personality. Learning about emotional intelligence doesn’t mean that you will apply it in daily life. We usually don’t know how to manage thing when we become stressed and due to which we are not able to perform other tasks too. If we really want to change our behavior we need to learn how to work under pressure and how to manage and overcome it. Daniel Goleman in his famous book ‘emotional intelligence- why it can matter more than IQ’ explained five main components of emotional intelligence: self awareness, self regulation, motivation, empathy and social …show more content…
It includes particularly your feelings and emotions, how you are able to manage and control your negative feelings and impulses. The people who are good at regulating themselves are better in controlling their anger. Before making any kind of decisions they think in every perspective to get better results. They don’t please everybody they know when to say no. The characteristics of self regulation include self control, thoughtfulness and integrity. Its basically being able to govern obstreperous moods. It also includes the adaptability to change and follow through commitments and regulating yourself in more positive and productive