Asian families often give people the feeling of strict, pressure, and perfection. Their children are always under the monitor of their parents. Learn different music instruments and study different subject are two of the most common demands Asian parents give to their children in the early age. However, it was different for me. I emigrate from China to United States when I was in 6th grade. I remember my mother was strict on my academic perform before I came to America, but she never force me to do what she expect me to do. After we live in America, my parents change their method of teaching me life lesson in a whole different way; I can do whatever I want to do, and remember that the choices that I made will form who I will become in the future.
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The strict rules from mom become loose and dad limit the help he offers. It was like a bird let out from the cage, the feeling of freedom was great, but at the same time, it was uncomfortable. At first, I don’t understand why they allowing me to have such great amount of freedom. Later, I realize is because of the language. They don’t know how to speak English, unlike me; I can learn English in a short period of time. “In public, my father and mother spoke a hesitant, accented, not always grammatical English.” from The Hunger of Memory, by Richard Rodriguez. My parent can hardly speak a complete sentence in English. Thus, they would speak English either not use any verbs and say only the subject or use their hand and action as a way to express their idea. They can’t go to the open house for school, nor can they talk with my teacher to see how I was doing in school. They can’t help me as much as they can when we live in China. My mom once told me, “I hope you know me and your dad will not always be there to help you, you will have to make the decision on your own in your life.” At that moment, I told myself is time to grow up, I was 15 back …show more content…
Their words of wisdom guide me to who I’m today. Sometimes I don’t understand what is the meaning of their words because I start to forget Chinese, yet “That was the language that helped shape the way I saw things, expressed things, made sense of the world. ” said by Amy Tan, from the article of Mother Tone. When I’m home, my parents communicate with me in Chinese. They encourage my brother and I speak English at home, but it never happens. Speaking Chinese at home create an atmosphere that makes my family comfortable. The way my parents talk to my brother and I is peaceful, but underlying their words are experience, worry, and story. Sometime they repeat the same sentences or story over and over again, trying to explain to me how the world is different back then. Their knowledge of the society is much more profound than I do. I’m glad that they keep reminding me the world is changing every day, so are the decisions I will
The strict rules from mom become loose and dad limit the help he offers. It was like a bird let out from the cage, the feeling of freedom was great, but at the same time, it was uncomfortable. At first, I don’t understand why they allowing me to have such great amount of freedom. Later, I realize is because of the language. They don’t know how to speak English, unlike me; I can learn English in a short period of time. “In public, my father and mother spoke a hesitant, accented, not always grammatical English.” from The Hunger of Memory, by Richard Rodriguez. My parent can hardly speak a complete sentence in English. Thus, they would speak English either not use any verbs and say only the subject or use their hand and action as a way to express their idea. They can’t go to the open house for school, nor can they talk with my teacher to see how I was doing in school. They can’t help me as much as they can when we live in China. My mom once told me, “I hope you know me and your dad will not always be there to help you, you will have to make the decision on your own in your life.” At that moment, I told myself is time to grow up, I was 15 back …show more content…
Their words of wisdom guide me to who I’m today. Sometimes I don’t understand what is the meaning of their words because I start to forget Chinese, yet “That was the language that helped shape the way I saw things, expressed things, made sense of the world. ” said by Amy Tan, from the article of Mother Tone. When I’m home, my parents communicate with me in Chinese. They encourage my brother and I speak English at home, but it never happens. Speaking Chinese at home create an atmosphere that makes my family comfortable. The way my parents talk to my brother and I is peaceful, but underlying their words are experience, worry, and story. Sometime they repeat the same sentences or story over and over again, trying to explain to me how the world is different back then. Their knowledge of the society is much more profound than I do. I’m glad that they keep reminding me the world is changing every day, so are the decisions I will