After looking through the inventories and the feedback I had received about my communication skills, I have found some communication skills I am quite effective at and some I should work on a little bit. My strengths seem to be listening, seeming alert, and being empathetic. People who gave me feedback said that they felt good when they spoke to me because they knew I was truly listening to their messages. I seemed alert by making eye contact, asking questions, and having a polite mannerism. I work hard to put myself in their shoes and feel how they feel and tell them what I would need to hear if I were in that situation. It felt great to reassure how effective of a listener I am however; I have discovered a few flaws in my communication;
…show more content…
After I have viewed how they use their communication to be assertive, I should practice these techniques to myself. For example, I should try using the desensitization technique. This is when I think of a situation when I’m usually non-assertive, determine my desired behavior, imagine myself executing that behavior in my head until the anxiety of it goes away, then think of the next step to reach what I want and visualize myself in that step until discomfort vanishes as well. This imagining until I’m comfortable technique keeps repeating until I have accomplished telling someone my wants/needs are. This technique is all mental, until I am completely comfortable and am ready to give it a try physically. It’s probably best to practice with a friend before doing this to someone of higher status such as a …show more content…
To do this I need to start using a process called perception checking. To execute a successful perception check, I must first describe what I see or hear. Then, I need to ask them if what I think is true or not by suggesting multiple explanations. Then, ask which one, if any, are true. Think about this example, during an examination last week, you see your friend looking over at your paper and want to confront him. I would say something like “Hey, during the exam last week, I thought I saw you glancing at my exam. Were you just totally spacing out or would you like some tutoring?” This perception check is much better than assuming they cheated and confronting them about how wrong that
After I have viewed how they use their communication to be assertive, I should practice these techniques to myself. For example, I should try using the desensitization technique. This is when I think of a situation when I’m usually non-assertive, determine my desired behavior, imagine myself executing that behavior in my head until the anxiety of it goes away, then think of the next step to reach what I want and visualize myself in that step until discomfort vanishes as well. This imagining until I’m comfortable technique keeps repeating until I have accomplished telling someone my wants/needs are. This technique is all mental, until I am completely comfortable and am ready to give it a try physically. It’s probably best to practice with a friend before doing this to someone of higher status such as a …show more content…
To do this I need to start using a process called perception checking. To execute a successful perception check, I must first describe what I see or hear. Then, I need to ask them if what I think is true or not by suggesting multiple explanations. Then, ask which one, if any, are true. Think about this example, during an examination last week, you see your friend looking over at your paper and want to confront him. I would say something like “Hey, during the exam last week, I thought I saw you glancing at my exam. Were you just totally spacing out or would you like some tutoring?” This perception check is much better than assuming they cheated and confronting them about how wrong that