The story begins like so many others. A boy meets a girl. Friendship sprouts. Time goes by. They become best friends, the kind of friendship that seems hard to come by now. I still sometimes wonder how she came to know me so well. It was so natural. Everything just seemed to fall into place with her. First and foremost, she was my best friend. We told each other everything. She opened up about her past. I almost couldn 't believe what she told me. No one had ever been that open with me. We spent so much time together. My other friends would jest, saying I didn 't have enough time for them. At the time, that was okay with me. But looking back, I wish I would have spent more time with them. But I had never had a friend like this before. As
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There would be many times in the following year that I wanted to reach out to her and try our friendship again. But I knew I shouldn 't. I didn 't believe that would end well. I learned about one of the defining characteristics of the human condition. That is the need for community. We want to be liked. We want to be loved. This was something that I had heard many times before, but never truly understood. It was not until I lost it that I realized its true importance. I had other friends, but it was not the same. Each friendship has a unique history and a unique direction it is headings. But now my relationship with her was just a history. There were parts of our friendship that couldn 't be fulfilled by anyone else. In this I learned how nostalgic humanity is. We don 't like change. It 's not until you make the change that the change becomes the norm. Then you couldn 't see yourself without it. It shows how stubborn humanity is. Time and time again change has lead to great thing in my life, but each time, I 'm afraid to make it. I also learned a little about the darker side of man. After our relationship ended, sometimes I would be so fueled by anger that I would hope she would never be happy. Looking back, I feel incredible guilt about thinking such things about someone so amazing. It was in those moments I felt the cynicism of the human condition taking over my mind. This displayed for me the dualism of man. One side cynical. One side loving. But thankfully, I learned that cynicism isn 't the answer. I learned firsthand how hard it is to forgive and move on, but also saw the positive growth that comes from
There would be many times in the following year that I wanted to reach out to her and try our friendship again. But I knew I shouldn 't. I didn 't believe that would end well. I learned about one of the defining characteristics of the human condition. That is the need for community. We want to be liked. We want to be loved. This was something that I had heard many times before, but never truly understood. It was not until I lost it that I realized its true importance. I had other friends, but it was not the same. Each friendship has a unique history and a unique direction it is headings. But now my relationship with her was just a history. There were parts of our friendship that couldn 't be fulfilled by anyone else. In this I learned how nostalgic humanity is. We don 't like change. It 's not until you make the change that the change becomes the norm. Then you couldn 't see yourself without it. It shows how stubborn humanity is. Time and time again change has lead to great thing in my life, but each time, I 'm afraid to make it. I also learned a little about the darker side of man. After our relationship ended, sometimes I would be so fueled by anger that I would hope she would never be happy. Looking back, I feel incredible guilt about thinking such things about someone so amazing. It was in those moments I felt the cynicism of the human condition taking over my mind. This displayed for me the dualism of man. One side cynical. One side loving. But thankfully, I learned that cynicism isn 't the answer. I learned firsthand how hard it is to forgive and move on, but also saw the positive growth that comes from