Personal Attachment Theory And Personal Relationships

Often times in relationships, people are found to be secure and insecure. People at times question themselves to how secure or insecure they feel in their relationships with others. For example, some people might feel relatively secure in their relationships with others, whereas other people might be more concerned about whether others truly care about them. ("Your Personality," n.d.) Psychologists refer to these individual differences as attachment styles.
Personal Patterns of Attachment
According to the survey I took on personal patterns of attachment, my results represented my personal patterns of attachment are fearful-avoidant. Generally, people who are fearfully avoidant in their relationships are uncomfortable and may depend on others depending on serving as an attachment figure. Moreover, they worry that others may not be there emotionally when …show more content…
Growing up as I recall, my relationship with my parents was some what distant, therefore I am not aware of what type of bond I truly had with my caregiver. However, I do believe attachment styles are developed as infants, when we are socially interacting with adult caregivers. According to Jobn Bowlby (1962,1989) ;(Rodriguez, & Ritchie 2009). Attachment theory has its roots in the infant/care-giver bond. As young adults we undergo emerging development into maturing as older adults. As life experiences became a part of my adult development, I feel marriage at 21 was the real shaping of my development. Because of my age during that time I was still transitioning into becoming an adult therefore, negative experiences of my attachment developed me into the attachment I currently have today. In addition to the attachment styles, the four coping styles (low-anxious, high-anxious, repressive, and defensive) primary as they have a very close correlation with attachment style, which are measurable in the attachment pattern