While taking Psychology this past few months I have realized why I am who I am. I finally learned why I bite my fingernails. I also learned why I can take things that people might tell me and better myself, but others may cry. When I was younger, I had a hard time regulating my emotions which lead to me externalizing my problems. This lead to me always playing rough. Most girls do not play this way, but this actually helped release my anger in a positive way. I also developed a resilience to stress, during times I find myself stressed out. Finally, why I am who I am, is because of the parenting style my parents used to raise me. Most people wonder why they are who they are and how they developed these characteristics. The reason I am who I
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Motivation can either come from an internal or an external drive. An internal drive is intrinsic motivation, these kids may find their motivation as a need to feel smart. An external motivation is extrinsic motivation, these kids find their motivation through reward on the outside. I had extrinsic motivation growing up. In sports my goal was to get the biggest trophy, or the blue ribbon. At home my goal was to get the new toy or allowance after finishing my task that was set by my parents. As I got older, my motivation switched from extrinsic motivation to intrinsic motivation. My goal for every test is to get a good grade. Once I see the good grade on a test, it makes me feel so much more confident in my education. It is very important to teach children intrinsic motivation because, “the fun is in the activity (intrinsic), not the winning” (Berger, 2010, …show more content…
There are four different types of parenting. Only one of these parenting techniques is what parents need to be. The first is authoritarian. These parents are very strict because they have high standards for maturity, and have little communication with their children. The second is permissive. These parents discipline their children very little because they have low standards for maturity and highly nurture their kids. The next parents are the neglectful/ uninvolved, these parents are “unaware of what is going on in their children’s lives” (Berger, 2010, p.217). The last parenting style is authoritative parenting. “Authoritative parenting is widely regarded as the most effective and beneficial parenting style for normal children” (Hughes, 2013). These parents, “set limits and enforce rules but are flexible and listen to their children” (Berger, 2010, p.217). My parents were authoritative parents. When I broke the rules I was punished, but sometimes they were flexible and able to bend the rules. My parents always listened to me, and they always knew what was going on in my life. They were not my authority or my friend, but they were there to listen. “Findings showed that adolescents raised by authoritative parents have better home, health and emotional adjustment as compared to adolescents raised by authoritarian parents” (Sartaj and Aslam, 2010). In high school, a lot of my
Motivation can either come from an internal or an external drive. An internal drive is intrinsic motivation, these kids may find their motivation as a need to feel smart. An external motivation is extrinsic motivation, these kids find their motivation through reward on the outside. I had extrinsic motivation growing up. In sports my goal was to get the biggest trophy, or the blue ribbon. At home my goal was to get the new toy or allowance after finishing my task that was set by my parents. As I got older, my motivation switched from extrinsic motivation to intrinsic motivation. My goal for every test is to get a good grade. Once I see the good grade on a test, it makes me feel so much more confident in my education. It is very important to teach children intrinsic motivation because, “the fun is in the activity (intrinsic), not the winning” (Berger, 2010, …show more content…
There are four different types of parenting. Only one of these parenting techniques is what parents need to be. The first is authoritarian. These parents are very strict because they have high standards for maturity, and have little communication with their children. The second is permissive. These parents discipline their children very little because they have low standards for maturity and highly nurture their kids. The next parents are the neglectful/ uninvolved, these parents are “unaware of what is going on in their children’s lives” (Berger, 2010, p.217). The last parenting style is authoritative parenting. “Authoritative parenting is widely regarded as the most effective and beneficial parenting style for normal children” (Hughes, 2013). These parents, “set limits and enforce rules but are flexible and listen to their children” (Berger, 2010, p.217). My parents were authoritative parents. When I broke the rules I was punished, but sometimes they were flexible and able to bend the rules. My parents always listened to me, and they always knew what was going on in my life. They were not my authority or my friend, but they were there to listen. “Findings showed that adolescents raised by authoritative parents have better home, health and emotional adjustment as compared to adolescents raised by authoritarian parents” (Sartaj and Aslam, 2010). In high school, a lot of my