Journal Entry 1
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Context: My husband and I deliberating on the care of my daughter in the case of deployment..
Interaction: My husband and I have had this conversation at least three times previously, with the most recent conversation being last week. We were sitting on the couch watching television, after getting home from work. My daughter is playing with her toys right in front of us when my husband asks me if I’m nervous about getting deployed. I say, “No, I’m not nervous. Why? Are you nervous about me being deployed?” He responds, “No. I just know you will be worried about Adrianna.” I respond back, “I’ll miss her, but I won’t be worried. She’ll be in good hands. My grandma is amazing with kids.” He turns, given his full attention …show more content…
The Implict Personalty Theory entails the personal beliefs you make about about others, regarding their personalities. My husband perceives me as being a very aggressive, critical and fault-finding. My husband has had this perception of me since, we first began dating. I can’t count how many times he’s perceived me as being angry or upset about something, when I really wasn’t angry or upset at all. I consider myself to be more analytical and logical, than critical. I know I have a stern voice so, I can see the rational behind his assumptions about me being aggressive. I can also see how a stern voice can make a simple question sound like criticizing. In this interaction, when he said "Why? You think I can't take care of her by myself?", I knew he assumed I was being critical of his capabilities to function as a independent parent. I knew he expected me to respond by saying something that would allude to the fact that I thought he couldn’t take care of her. However, I really wasn’t criticizing him. I hadn’t even thought about it in that way. I assumed he would want help from my family to help take care of my daughter while I was gone because I am the primary caretaker. I thought I would be making the situation easier for
Description
Context: My husband and I deliberating on the care of my daughter in the case of deployment..
Interaction: My husband and I have had this conversation at least three times previously, with the most recent conversation being last week. We were sitting on the couch watching television, after getting home from work. My daughter is playing with her toys right in front of us when my husband asks me if I’m nervous about getting deployed. I say, “No, I’m not nervous. Why? Are you nervous about me being deployed?” He responds, “No. I just know you will be worried about Adrianna.” I respond back, “I’ll miss her, but I won’t be worried. She’ll be in good hands. My grandma is amazing with kids.” He turns, given his full attention …show more content…
The Implict Personalty Theory entails the personal beliefs you make about about others, regarding their personalities. My husband perceives me as being a very aggressive, critical and fault-finding. My husband has had this perception of me since, we first began dating. I can’t count how many times he’s perceived me as being angry or upset about something, when I really wasn’t angry or upset at all. I consider myself to be more analytical and logical, than critical. I know I have a stern voice so, I can see the rational behind his assumptions about me being aggressive. I can also see how a stern voice can make a simple question sound like criticizing. In this interaction, when he said "Why? You think I can't take care of her by myself?", I knew he assumed I was being critical of his capabilities to function as a independent parent. I knew he expected me to respond by saying something that would allude to the fact that I thought he couldn’t take care of her. However, I really wasn’t criticizing him. I hadn’t even thought about it in that way. I assumed he would want help from my family to help take care of my daughter while I was gone because I am the primary caretaker. I thought I would be making the situation easier for