Personal Narrative: The Identity Of Homosexual Women

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Being raised in a religious household you are taught that there’s only female or male. The gender that you are born with that is who you are. Although I was born into that environment and believe that marriage is between female and male I do not discriminate or judge those who think otherwise nor do I pressure them to change who they believe they are. As a heterosexual female I do have some disadvantages not just because I am a minority, but also because I am a woman. So, now I imagine what would it be if I were a homosexual women classifying myself as a lesbian. I would conclude that it would be a more challenging path not only dealing with society is, but he fact that I have to tell my family who don’t agree with that. If that were my identity, I have no idea how I would face my parents and the rest of my family with that information. I’m sure I would get the biblical facts lecture, but I feel that they would also blame society that the way everyone is acting. Besides hurting my family, I believe I would be not disowned, but have them be disappointed on the direction I decided to take my life. This dramatic change would affect everyone around me. …show more content…
I fact that in a institution would be accepting of who I am, I would like to believe they would. Yet, I am sure I would encounter myself with some who aren’t at school or in the career I decide to take. Which would be another hurdle for me to over come because of the disproval I would have of other people on who I define myself. As I mentioned in the beginning I already have a disadvantage because of my skin color and being a woman. Adding the fact that I change my identity from straight to lesbian or gay is something that would as well push me back. It would be difficult, but I would have to just keep pushing forward for what I believe I deserve and can accomplish despite the

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