He died. I wish he didn’t, but he died. We couldn’t do anything about it. He helped save some little kids and was a hero. He was one of the only people who understood me. Johnny isn’t dead, I thought to myself. I remember a quote. “I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.”. J.R.R Tolkien said this. I remember this so clearly. I burst into tears. Grief isn’t always bad. Grief is like thanking someone for what they did for humanity, or even specifically just one person. The definition of grief is “deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone's death” (Dictionary, 1). Grief has five stages which are very important. The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance; these stages relate to the
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One may ask for something or some force to take one’s life instead of the victim’s. This looks like having God bring someone back from the dead and take someone else’s life instead. There might be a lot of crying. This is a very necessary stage in grief and if one makes it to this stage, it means that one are accepting that the divorce happened or that the person died. It is like saying “God, please use me as your puppet so I can have my friend or wife or whoever back”. One’s emotions will pour out of one and one will feel kind of drained. According to Death, Loss, and Grief, “Reaching the bargaining stage shows that one have begun to face the fact that the relationship is ending. one are past the denial stage. This is a necessary stage, and it helps one to look at what caused the problems in the first place” (5). This is a necessary stage in the healing process and one need to let oneself have these feelings and emotions. This is seen in the Outsiders when Dally slams himself against the door and asks for Johnny to still be alive. According to the Outsiders, “Whirling suddenly, he slammed back against the wall. His face contracted in agony, sweat streamed down his face. "Damnit, Johnny..." he begged, slamming one fist against the wall, hammering it to make it obey his will. "Oh, damnit, Johnny, don't die, please don't die...“ (Hinton, 127). Here it shows that Dally is trying to make something obey his will and for Johnny to come back to life. Let’s see how Dally and Ponyboy deal with
One may ask for something or some force to take one’s life instead of the victim’s. This looks like having God bring someone back from the dead and take someone else’s life instead. There might be a lot of crying. This is a very necessary stage in grief and if one makes it to this stage, it means that one are accepting that the divorce happened or that the person died. It is like saying “God, please use me as your puppet so I can have my friend or wife or whoever back”. One’s emotions will pour out of one and one will feel kind of drained. According to Death, Loss, and Grief, “Reaching the bargaining stage shows that one have begun to face the fact that the relationship is ending. one are past the denial stage. This is a necessary stage, and it helps one to look at what caused the problems in the first place” (5). This is a necessary stage in the healing process and one need to let oneself have these feelings and emotions. This is seen in the Outsiders when Dally slams himself against the door and asks for Johnny to still be alive. According to the Outsiders, “Whirling suddenly, he slammed back against the wall. His face contracted in agony, sweat streamed down his face. "Damnit, Johnny..." he begged, slamming one fist against the wall, hammering it to make it obey his will. "Oh, damnit, Johnny, don't die, please don't die...“ (Hinton, 127). Here it shows that Dally is trying to make something obey his will and for Johnny to come back to life. Let’s see how Dally and Ponyboy deal with