Personal Narrative: Growing Up In An Authoritarian Family

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I grew up in a Authoritarian household. I lived with my father who was single and liked to drink. He was not nice and it was his way or he would get angry. And at a young age I would listen to him all the time. And if I didn't he would yell which of course scared me. He was not affectionate at all he would not hug or say he loved me and I think part of the problem was because thats how he was raised. And now as I'm older I can't stand it when people try to touch me. As I got older in my high school years I rebelled a little, no drugs or anything I just didn't go to school that much and had no ambition and I was slowly turning into my father. Luckily though I had wonderful teachers that guided me to the right path and they got me interested

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