Personal Narrative: Family Conflict Analysis

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The conflict I talked about in my conflict summary took place between my older sister and me in a Facebook Messenger chat. We started talking about her current relationship and the repercussions if she decided to bring her boyfriend home and introduce him to the family. The conflict started when I told her things she did not want to hear, for example, that her boyfriend would not fit in with our family because he is a different religion and race. The reason I said this is because my family is very religious and are very traditional; therefore, even having a boyfriend is a bad thing. As the conflict escalated, I told her how I felt about this relationship and that I thought her boyfriend was taking her away from me. The argument started to get …show more content…
She made me feel more alone by trying to fix me; she did this by giving me advice on what I am doing wrong in my personal life, which was almost everything. She made it seem like there's something wrong with me and kept trying to psychoanalyze me. She came up with many conclusions to try to figure out what was wrong with me. She made me feel like there was something wrong with me and that everything is my fault. The C position with her boyfriend made the conflict worse because it turned into a Villain-Victim-Rescuer situation. I became the villain, my sister was the victim and her boyfriend was the rescuer, when the conflict first started but as the as the conversation continued, he turned into the victim and my sister turned into the rescuer. I remained the villain in this situation because I was telling her things she did not want to hear. From my perspective, I could see how I was seen as the villain but I was also the victim at one point because of the fact that I was physically and emotionally abused in this situation, as well as, my biggest fear became reality as my sister disowned me. From my perspective, I was just looking out for her and telling the reality of the situation but at the same time, I could be seen as the villain because I did not control the situation properly and did not take my sisters emotions and perspective into

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