When I think about the grief of suicide all the feelings that come with that loss come to mind. Shock. Anger. Guilt. Shame. That feeling of aloneness; like no one understands. I am a survivor of suicide. I am a survivor through loss of someone who died by suicide: Kevin on January 24, 2001, Danny, August 13, 2001, and Matt, August 3, 2009.
As a survivor who lost someone to suicide there were times when I felt very alone in my grief. There were times when I felt lost and confused. There were times when I was angry. Man was I angry…. and then there is the guilt. The “what ifs’, “if onlys”, and “whys”. What if I would have answered the phone? What if I would have dropped in to say hello? How did I not see