Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Acceptance. 5 seemingly unrelated words, but together they make up the 5 stages of grief. They are all necessary to your mental sanity and getting through this difficult time. They are inevitable. Though you may wish it were otherwise, they are unavoidable. Knowing what’s ahead may make the load a little lighter.
The first stage is Denial. Denial: to declare something untrue. You tell yourself nothing’s changed, that everything is fine, because ignoring your feelings prolongs the onset of pain. Ignoring reality makes it a little easier to bear, but it is temporary. I pretended I’d never gotten the news that he wasn’t coming back, rather, moving farther away. He left me abruptly freshman year, and I told …show more content…
You’ve reached the eye of the hurricane. The calm after the storm. You’ve entered the long but satisfying, and relieving, last stage of grief – Acceptance. You’ve gotten over whatever happened. You’ve accepted it. Embraced it, with closed, hesitant at first, but now open arms. And, despite what you thought, it actually hurts the least out of all the stages. You feel free. You’ve fully wrapped your head and heart around it, and you’re emotionally and mentally stable again. You feel normal. You want someone to be proud for you, because you feel so proud of yourself for getting through it, and you want some credit for it. But honestly, coming out alright is the reward in itself. You went through hell and back trying to sort yourself out, but look! You did it. How did you ever do it?
Nothing I, nor anyone can tell you can prepare you for what’s to come. You can prepare yourself mentally, but you can’t be prepared for how it’ll feel. If you wanted an instruction manual on how to get through grief, sorry to say, but there just isn’t one. There’s no given set of things you need to do to speed up the process. It’s individualized, but for anyone struggling to keep up with life, one thing is the same for them all. Only one thing can get you through this, and that’s time itself. But stick it out. You’ll be glad you did in the long
The first stage is Denial. Denial: to declare something untrue. You tell yourself nothing’s changed, that everything is fine, because ignoring your feelings prolongs the onset of pain. Ignoring reality makes it a little easier to bear, but it is temporary. I pretended I’d never gotten the news that he wasn’t coming back, rather, moving farther away. He left me abruptly freshman year, and I told …show more content…
You’ve reached the eye of the hurricane. The calm after the storm. You’ve entered the long but satisfying, and relieving, last stage of grief – Acceptance. You’ve gotten over whatever happened. You’ve accepted it. Embraced it, with closed, hesitant at first, but now open arms. And, despite what you thought, it actually hurts the least out of all the stages. You feel free. You’ve fully wrapped your head and heart around it, and you’re emotionally and mentally stable again. You feel normal. You want someone to be proud for you, because you feel so proud of yourself for getting through it, and you want some credit for it. But honestly, coming out alright is the reward in itself. You went through hell and back trying to sort yourself out, but look! You did it. How did you ever do it?
Nothing I, nor anyone can tell you can prepare you for what’s to come. You can prepare yourself mentally, but you can’t be prepared for how it’ll feel. If you wanted an instruction manual on how to get through grief, sorry to say, but there just isn’t one. There’s no given set of things you need to do to speed up the process. It’s individualized, but for anyone struggling to keep up with life, one thing is the same for them all. Only one thing can get you through this, and that’s time itself. But stick it out. You’ll be glad you did in the long