Personal Narrative: Coming Out

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Coming out isn’t ever painless, but in the end it’s worthwhile. On October 10, 2015 I came out to my friends as a lesbian. It took over three years to mustard up the courage to accept myself. The moment I realized I was “different” I immediately block the notion from my head and reframed from it for over two years. I allowed myself to believe the lie I fictitious, until the point I could no longer function. As a result, I became depressed, unsociable, and my anxiety skyrocketed to an all-time high. I compensated my true yearning to come out through being a straight A student, until the pressure was too much for me, therefore my grades dropped. I started to lose friends and the desire to live, because in the back in my mind I knew that if I came out individuals would never view me the same and lack respect for me. …show more content…
Coming out to my friends was simpler due to, if they were my true friends they would accept me with open arms; and they did. I would come out to my parents, but due to the strain in our relationship which has just been recently repaired it would transpire in my best interest to reframe from telling them. It took me numerous days and nights to figure out that coming out isn’t truly necessary; why force myself if I’m not ready and that my sexuality isn’t anyone business but my own. Once, I realized this it became clear to me that I was ready to come out. On October 10, 2015 I felt utter bliss and happiness for the first time in my life because…. I will living my authentic

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