Throughout my lifespan, I have always known conflict and no peace. From early in my adolescence into adulthood, I witnessed conflict with my parents. The conflict during my upbringing was my first encounter with unhealthy abusive relationships. Naturally, I became desensitized to conflict and dissension that ensued in my parents’ home. Therefore, from an early age, I learned to accept conflict and abuse. As a child, I was beyond quiet almost mute. My inner voice wanted to speak up, but I could never find the courage to express my emotional state. Hence, my cohorts bullied me at school due to my obesity. The children would crowd together and jeer with comments like “hi ugly” or “ hi fat girl”. I could never keep up with the other kids in physical
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Currently, my work environment is hostile, and I stayed and resisted flight for nine long months. Before my job conflict, I never spoke up, however, this time I spoke up to my boss. My boss supported me as I reported the conflict to Human Resources (HR). Then I felt empowered to resign from my position. The position was a toxic environment, and I made a choice to leave. For the first time in my life, I had the autonomy to determine if I should stay in the abusive situation or leave. In the past, I was codependent on others which caused be to submit to maleficence. Nonetheless, I still feel like a baby moving to the stage of walking. I stumble, and at times I fall, but I continue to rise back up and keep trying. Moreover, I believe as I gain more experience in handling conflict, I will have better control over the fight or flight feelings during adverse situations. Additionally, I will be more confident to tackle my issues directly. The reason why I feel that I could stand up for myself is that I finally moved further up Maslow’s ladder of basic needs. Psychodynamic theorist Abraham Maslow the founder of the humanistic school of psychology and the hierarchy of basic needs (Sandy, Boardman, and Deutsch 411). The hierarchy of basic needs is psychological, safety, belongingness, esteem, and
Currently, my work environment is hostile, and I stayed and resisted flight for nine long months. Before my job conflict, I never spoke up, however, this time I spoke up to my boss. My boss supported me as I reported the conflict to Human Resources (HR). Then I felt empowered to resign from my position. The position was a toxic environment, and I made a choice to leave. For the first time in my life, I had the autonomy to determine if I should stay in the abusive situation or leave. In the past, I was codependent on others which caused be to submit to maleficence. Nonetheless, I still feel like a baby moving to the stage of walking. I stumble, and at times I fall, but I continue to rise back up and keep trying. Moreover, I believe as I gain more experience in handling conflict, I will have better control over the fight or flight feelings during adverse situations. Additionally, I will be more confident to tackle my issues directly. The reason why I feel that I could stand up for myself is that I finally moved further up Maslow’s ladder of basic needs. Psychodynamic theorist Abraham Maslow the founder of the humanistic school of psychology and the hierarchy of basic needs (Sandy, Boardman, and Deutsch 411). The hierarchy of basic needs is psychological, safety, belongingness, esteem, and