Personal Narrative: Becoming A Mom Changed My Life

I was a teenage mother in High school. I got pregnant at the age of sixteen and I had my son at seventeen. I spent my whole junior year pregnant and senior year raising my son. When people found out I was pregnant they turned their backs on me. I was ashamed of what happened to me and I couldn’t bear to walk the hallways of my high school. I had my mistake written practically on my forehead. My son wasn’t the mistake; my mistake was having sex before marriage and not protecting myself from unwanted consequences. I struggled every day to prove everyone that doubted me wrong. I made sure I wasn’t just labeled as a statistic or the girl that got pregnant in high school. I made sure to graduate school with the rest of my class and I made it to …show more content…
Becoming a mother changed my entire thought process. I no longer just thought about myself. I learned to think about what was best for my child and every decision I made was based on him. Being a mother changed my mentality and made me view the outside world in a new perspective. It was as if I got a new pair of lens. I was no longer seeing a foggy picture; I was seeing everything from a mother’s eye. Becoming a mother also brought back many memories of my childhood. I recalled how I was raised and I then began to know I was going to raise my child differently. My Aunt was the sole provider of me. My parents both gave up their parental rights because they were not fit to be parents so therefore my aunt adopted me so I didn’t have to end up in foster care. My aunt struggled to give me a home, food, clothing, education and all the necessities that a growing child would need to get ahead in life. Even though it was hard growing up without my mom or dad around I still managed to do what I had to do, and never let anything stop me. The memories I have of my childhood are painful and at times I wish I could forget them. My nervous system basically controlled all my mood swings when I was pregnant as well as when I had my child. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that is liked to mood changes, sleep and appetite. Afterbirth, I expressed postpartum depression …show more content…
When looking at an evolutionary perspective I can see why I was attracted to more old and mature guys. Men typically seek out females that are younger because they are supposed to be more healthy and fertile. When women look for men they make sure that they have a job or some sort of income to make sure they provide for the offspring that they produce. Women make sure that their mate are able to survive. When I first found out I was pregnant I didn’t fear that we weren’t going to be able to provide. I knew that my child’s father had the resources necessary for us to raise a child. Nature and nature plays a role in making sure females remain on a constant cycle when it comes to hormones and sexual desires. Having sex is nature’s way of making sure we continue to produce and make more kids. Behavior genetics is how the environment operates and affects behavior. My aunt raised me with an authoritarian parenting style. She was very restrictive and everything she would say or demand would be because “she said so” and no more questions. The way she raised me shaped the way I behaved. I made sure not to do anything to upset her and made sure to always be on my best behavior. I knew that when I had children I didn’t want to raise them that way so I chose to be an authoritative parent. I am very supportive and I have an open and loving relationship with my son. I