I am not talking about driving projects, I am literally talking about driving automobiles. This article is a precursor to what I would soon be writing about in my next article.
Until recently, I had been an aggressive driver. Not always, but most of the times. It would keep my family and friends on the edges of their seats. There had been several times (more than I can recall) when upon their constant request to slow down, I would argue unnecessarily, eventually stopping the car on the side of the road, and ask someone else to drive. I still regret those times.
It’s not that I didn’t try to change. I had sincerely, but unsuccessfully tried many times to drive slow, but soon I would return to my old habits of driving fast and aggressively. …show more content…
in italics above, because until recently I did not realize that how one drives, is not a single dimensional decision of just the speed (fast or slow). There is yet another dimension - the state of mind (aggressive or relaxed). As it’s popular now a days to put 3D with most things, if I had to add a third dimension, it would be the driving ability (adept or tentative). For now, let’s just keep it simple and stay with 2D. Please see the picture below. I realized that all these years when I was trying to change myself - I was only moving from the first quadrant to the second. Even though I was trying to drive slowly, internally I was still in an aggressive state of mind. I would get pretty annoyed if someone would cut in front of me, or didn’t show the turn blinker before changing lanes, and many such silly reasons. Very soon, I would get frustrated and start driving fast and aggressively again. Once I realized this second dimension of changing the state of mind, the question was if it’s possible to drive fast and still not be aggressive - i.e. the third quadrant? I don’t think that’s possible. At least, it’s not possible for me. I am pretty sure that is true for most
Until recently, I had been an aggressive driver. Not always, but most of the times. It would keep my family and friends on the edges of their seats. There had been several times (more than I can recall) when upon their constant request to slow down, I would argue unnecessarily, eventually stopping the car on the side of the road, and ask someone else to drive. I still regret those times.
It’s not that I didn’t try to change. I had sincerely, but unsuccessfully tried many times to drive slow, but soon I would return to my old habits of driving fast and aggressively. …show more content…
in italics above, because until recently I did not realize that how one drives, is not a single dimensional decision of just the speed (fast or slow). There is yet another dimension - the state of mind (aggressive or relaxed). As it’s popular now a days to put 3D with most things, if I had to add a third dimension, it would be the driving ability (adept or tentative). For now, let’s just keep it simple and stay with 2D. Please see the picture below. I realized that all these years when I was trying to change myself - I was only moving from the first quadrant to the second. Even though I was trying to drive slowly, internally I was still in an aggressive state of mind. I would get pretty annoyed if someone would cut in front of me, or didn’t show the turn blinker before changing lanes, and many such silly reasons. Very soon, I would get frustrated and start driving fast and aggressively again. Once I realized this second dimension of changing the state of mind, the question was if it’s possible to drive fast and still not be aggressive - i.e. the third quadrant? I don’t think that’s possible. At least, it’s not possible for me. I am pretty sure that is true for most