Personal Narrative-Aggressive Military Leadership

Being an INFJ female leader in the military goes against many of the established social norms that are ingrained in our military warrior ethos. Military leaders are taught from an early age to fight and win without giving much regard to introversion, intuitiveness, and feeling. In fact, the only acceptable trait that I seem to possess as military leader is that of judging. My persona fights an epic battle every day as I feel the pressures of having to force myself to be extroverted and to lean towards thinking versus feeling each day that I serve. This has forced me to be one person at home and another person at work. The dueling-personalities that I possess has caused an imbalance in my personal life because my free time is severely limited as I am expected to always be in the spotlight during both on and off-duty hours. Being an INFJ in the military is hard. However, as an undercover INFJ I can do things that most leaders cannot. I have the knowledge and the expertise to be able to function as a thinker while simultaneously being able to connect with my personnel through …show more content…
I focus on ensuring that everyone has the skills necessary to mediate their differences while I do all the fighting with upper levels of leadership outside of our organization. I am guilty of enabling my subordinates into assuming a victim-based role. The problem is that I enjoy fighting for them, However, I should learn to take on more of a supporting role when it comes to resolving contact versus a leading one. I can attribute my behavior to my personal issues in being victimized in the past. I enjoy the thrill of getting bad people out of our military and it tends to consume a lot of my focus, time and energy. I have contributed to my own unhealthy situation and need to look at things with a more objective, detached