Chances are you may know a deadbeat father. He may pay child support, as in the case of my son’s father but doesn’t care to help raise the child or make himself known in that child’s life.
They say it takes a village to raise a child, but what happens when part of that village ain’t shit? Far too long in the Black community we have complained about the lack of quality fathers. Women are being left too often to raise their children alone. Where is the deadbeat’s sister? Brother? Uncle? Mother? Father? Yes some dead beat Dad’s have great fathers in their lives. Surprising, isn’t it?
From the start, the father of my son wanted nothing to do with us. I was fine with that. He definitely had a choice in the matter. I did however immediately file for child support once our son was born.
I let the family of my son’s father know about his birth. My son was born …show more content…
I was saddened because my son will never know the man he shares his name with. I know how much my son loves my father, whom he also shares a name with. My son loves his PawPaw so much.
I expressed my condolences to my son’s Aunt on her FB status and didn’t bother to reach out to her further. I reached out to the mom of my son’s half siblings to see how the kids were handling the loss. Her first reaction was where did I hear the news. She maintains she didn’t even know about his passing and goes on to share some details I didn’t need to know. I wished her a good evening and quickly exited the conversation.
After our exchange, I realize, she has been drama and sharing TMI since I initially messaged her to see if our kids could meet. My son longs for an older brother and he has one, her son. Although their age difference is great I think my son would like to know his older brother.
As adults we need to get out of our own way of successfully raising our children. These vicious cycles are being repeated because the village ain’t shit. A
They say it takes a village to raise a child, but what happens when part of that village ain’t shit? Far too long in the Black community we have complained about the lack of quality fathers. Women are being left too often to raise their children alone. Where is the deadbeat’s sister? Brother? Uncle? Mother? Father? Yes some dead beat Dad’s have great fathers in their lives. Surprising, isn’t it?
From the start, the father of my son wanted nothing to do with us. I was fine with that. He definitely had a choice in the matter. I did however immediately file for child support once our son was born.
I let the family of my son’s father know about his birth. My son was born …show more content…
I was saddened because my son will never know the man he shares his name with. I know how much my son loves my father, whom he also shares a name with. My son loves his PawPaw so much.
I expressed my condolences to my son’s Aunt on her FB status and didn’t bother to reach out to her further. I reached out to the mom of my son’s half siblings to see how the kids were handling the loss. Her first reaction was where did I hear the news. She maintains she didn’t even know about his passing and goes on to share some details I didn’t need to know. I wished her a good evening and quickly exited the conversation.
After our exchange, I realize, she has been drama and sharing TMI since I initially messaged her to see if our kids could meet. My son longs for an older brother and he has one, her son. Although their age difference is great I think my son would like to know his older brother.
As adults we need to get out of our own way of successfully raising our children. These vicious cycles are being repeated because the village ain’t shit. A