I love the quiet. I sought it out when I came to college in Seattle, living in “the big city” for the first time this fall, more than a little overwhelmed by the sheer number of people everywhere. I looked for and found spaces where we pray in quiet to hear our own God answer. And now I have come to a season in which we encourage each other to come into the quiet and the rest and peace it brings.
But I noticed something else in the quiet that evening. Perhaps because I had just returned from a trip back home, I realized that my quiet does not belong to me. It belongs to my sister. My twelve-year-old sister has severe developmental delays and serious sensory processing issues. Anything and everything is liable to be too bright, too loud, too much for her, and so I grew up with the quiet. With subtitles on muted TV screens, with an empathetic dread of ceiling fans, with a constant, chiding shhh. …show more content…
My quiet encompasses all the work it takes to make the world safe for my sister. My quiet is an act of love. My quiet was enforced for years, and my quiet puts her needs first.
My quiet is heartbreaking. Quiet is unanswered questions and the words she can’t say. Quiet is the sound before “Ellen, call 911."
My quiet, in short, is complicated. My quiet is already part of the prayers I bring into those spaces. And it is drowned out by the noticing. (Their quiet is not quiet. I can hear the building humming and feel the vibrations of little human noises in the stone floor of the chapel. She is home, a hundred miles away. She is home, she is safe, she is cared for, and yet I cannot shut my