Being persistent is a great quality to have and aim for because it means that you do not quit easily no matter how difficult the circumstances that may come your way are. Gladwell even implies that persistence is automatically good throughout chapter 8 of “Outliers” by using the rice farmers in China as an example; however, there are situations when persistence causes problems.
When a person is too persistent, it comes off as annoying. For instance, when a man is courting a girl and she turns him down or gives hint that she does not see him the way he sees her, it is irritating on the girl’s part; however no one is to blame for this because we cannot alter our emotions in an instant even if we wanted to; it takes time. We shouldn’t be apologetic …show more content…
It is understandable that the salesperson is just doing his or her job, but it is still annoying nonetheless. Most of the time, when we are persistent, we do not even notice or realize that we are already becoming bothersome.
Aside from being annoying, persistence does not allow a person to explore other things that could be more desirable. From the example of the man courting the woman, because he is persistent in wooing her when she clearly does not reciprocate his feelings, he does not allow himself to meet another woman who would love him the way he wants and deserves; and maybe that’s okay with him now, but as time passes he will realize that had he not been too persistent, he would have found happiness faster. In a way, the man also does not give the woman a chance to seek her happiness because she might feel guilty and think that she is hurting the man by entertaining someone else. A different scenario is when a child wants a toy but the parent says that the child cannot have it most likely because the parent sees the toy as useless; Even though the toy may seem useless and not educational, a child can still learn from it; for example, if the toy that the child wants is a car, the child can learn about shapes, colours and what a car is, which could and might influence his or her likes and dislikes growing up. Not only does the parent take away the child’s opportunity to learn, the parent also takes away the child’s chance to express
When a person is too persistent, it comes off as annoying. For instance, when a man is courting a girl and she turns him down or gives hint that she does not see him the way he sees her, it is irritating on the girl’s part; however no one is to blame for this because we cannot alter our emotions in an instant even if we wanted to; it takes time. We shouldn’t be apologetic …show more content…
It is understandable that the salesperson is just doing his or her job, but it is still annoying nonetheless. Most of the time, when we are persistent, we do not even notice or realize that we are already becoming bothersome.
Aside from being annoying, persistence does not allow a person to explore other things that could be more desirable. From the example of the man courting the woman, because he is persistent in wooing her when she clearly does not reciprocate his feelings, he does not allow himself to meet another woman who would love him the way he wants and deserves; and maybe that’s okay with him now, but as time passes he will realize that had he not been too persistent, he would have found happiness faster. In a way, the man also does not give the woman a chance to seek her happiness because she might feel guilty and think that she is hurting the man by entertaining someone else. A different scenario is when a child wants a toy but the parent says that the child cannot have it most likely because the parent sees the toy as useless; Even though the toy may seem useless and not educational, a child can still learn from it; for example, if the toy that the child wants is a car, the child can learn about shapes, colours and what a car is, which could and might influence his or her likes and dislikes growing up. Not only does the parent take away the child’s opportunity to learn, the parent also takes away the child’s chance to express