Fix It Directly
“It is fine, seriously…it’s fine!” said every woman when it’s so not fine. This is a precise example of how passive aggressive tendencies cause confusion and could even promote a bigger problem. Passive aggressive communication can make a situation escalate into an unnecessary confused conversation with no clear point. It can be very confusing for all who are involved. Direct or assertive behavior is more effective and gains a more clear solution or discussion. Assertive behavior has many more advantages over passive aggressive communication; such as, building healthy relationships, having clear intentions, and finding solutions.
Building healthy relationships is an essential part of life that cannot be accomplished by passive …show more content…
Knowing the purpose of a conversation or experience will gain the ability to express all thoughts without fear. Girls are often known for gossiping or talking about one another behind each other’s back. Then that usually leads to the telephone game we played as a child. It spirals out of control and the original statement is distorted. Intentions are clear when someone chooses to gossip about another person’s actions, or even clothes. This shows the negativity in that person, and not what they are stating. Their words are saying negativity, but their true bad intentions are being shown even more clearly. When someone is speaking poorly of other people they tend not be seen as trustworthy or have genuine efforts in relationships. Hearing someone talk down about others gives them fear of trust in that person. Knowing intentions or purpose of any conversation will help understand the content of the message; therefore there would be no need for wasting energy in trying to see a secret purpose. The purpose would be clear. All thoughts would be for a good common goal or intent. Generally there would be a clearer lesson and/or more needs met and trust would be built. Taking a direct approach to any conversation will leave a person at ease knowing that there was no hidden agenda and all topics were addressed. That will gain more opportunity to succeed in finding a better outcome or …show more content…
Solutions are the answer to all problems. These aren’t easy to always get to, but not worrying about an underlying conversation will help reach that goal. Eliminating the unknown or undiscussed issues will keep the focus on the solution or common goal. Recognizing the real problem by being direct is usually the key to finding solutions. How can someone expect another to know every time their feelings are hurt, or know when they are upset by another’s actions if they are unspoken? Agreeing to things out of fear of conflict will not get a person’s needs met. That all comes back to keeping it direct and clear. There wouldn’t be a way to find a solution to a problem if there is passive aggressiveness happening due to lack of certainty that the situation is real. Questioning the motives would be a top concern, and not what’s best for the situation. No solutions can be found if not directly addressed. It would stay the same or break. Or even in some cases leave someone with a powerless feeling. That is not a positive
“It is fine, seriously…it’s fine!” said every woman when it’s so not fine. This is a precise example of how passive aggressive tendencies cause confusion and could even promote a bigger problem. Passive aggressive communication can make a situation escalate into an unnecessary confused conversation with no clear point. It can be very confusing for all who are involved. Direct or assertive behavior is more effective and gains a more clear solution or discussion. Assertive behavior has many more advantages over passive aggressive communication; such as, building healthy relationships, having clear intentions, and finding solutions.
Building healthy relationships is an essential part of life that cannot be accomplished by passive …show more content…
Knowing the purpose of a conversation or experience will gain the ability to express all thoughts without fear. Girls are often known for gossiping or talking about one another behind each other’s back. Then that usually leads to the telephone game we played as a child. It spirals out of control and the original statement is distorted. Intentions are clear when someone chooses to gossip about another person’s actions, or even clothes. This shows the negativity in that person, and not what they are stating. Their words are saying negativity, but their true bad intentions are being shown even more clearly. When someone is speaking poorly of other people they tend not be seen as trustworthy or have genuine efforts in relationships. Hearing someone talk down about others gives them fear of trust in that person. Knowing intentions or purpose of any conversation will help understand the content of the message; therefore there would be no need for wasting energy in trying to see a secret purpose. The purpose would be clear. All thoughts would be for a good common goal or intent. Generally there would be a clearer lesson and/or more needs met and trust would be built. Taking a direct approach to any conversation will leave a person at ease knowing that there was no hidden agenda and all topics were addressed. That will gain more opportunity to succeed in finding a better outcome or …show more content…
Solutions are the answer to all problems. These aren’t easy to always get to, but not worrying about an underlying conversation will help reach that goal. Eliminating the unknown or undiscussed issues will keep the focus on the solution or common goal. Recognizing the real problem by being direct is usually the key to finding solutions. How can someone expect another to know every time their feelings are hurt, or know when they are upset by another’s actions if they are unspoken? Agreeing to things out of fear of conflict will not get a person’s needs met. That all comes back to keeping it direct and clear. There wouldn’t be a way to find a solution to a problem if there is passive aggressiveness happening due to lack of certainty that the situation is real. Questioning the motives would be a top concern, and not what’s best for the situation. No solutions can be found if not directly addressed. It would stay the same or break. Or even in some cases leave someone with a powerless feeling. That is not a positive