The way that parents nurture and bring up their children, otherwise known as parenting styles, greatly influence their behavior (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 195). For the virtual child assignment, I was assigned the permissive parenting style. This parenting style is exceptionally high in warmth but low in consistency and clarity of rules, maturity demands, and communication (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 196). When I made decisions based on specific circumstances in the program, I made them through the point of view of a best friend. I allowed Alex to do whatever he pleased. I did not see the point of rules since they could cause tensions between Alex and I. Plus rules generally are not followed anyway so there was no point in setting them in the first place.
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When I was watching all of the kids play together at recess I noticed that all of the boys were running around and playing physical activities and excluding the girls from their play. The girls would just stand around in groups or sometimes in pairs, showing high levels of gender self-segregation (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 256). When the boys and girls did interact with each other, it was very brief and usually involved teasing or chasing. This phenomenon of a brief boundary violation is known as a cross-gender encounter (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 257). This really made me wonder if this was a common occurrence among kids that age, so I researched it. I found that gender segregation is very common among this age and usually occurs because boys prefer rough and tumble play and girls do not, so boys tend to gather with other boys. Also, girls tend to like small social interactions so they tend to gravitate towards other girls (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 257). At that age, gender is very important in determining friends and the social circles of children but it is also clear that the children are also beginning to develop cognitive capabilities that allow them to understand that other factors are also important when seeking relationships (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. …show more content…
Parenting styles greatly affect the kind of person that we will eventually become. To have the best possible outcomes for their child it is important that parents show high levels of nurturance, clarity and consistency of rules, maturity demands, and communication. I learned through this program that being a best friend to your child may seem very attractive and easy, but it will not result in the best possible development of your child. It is crucial be high in all four areas if the most positive outcomes are desired. Another aspect of parenting that is important to consider is the type of attachment that the child has to the mother. Even if the parent has no money and the family lives in a poor, unsafe neighborhood, ultimately it is the parenting style that is significant for the development of the child (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 205). Therefore, when parenting, I recommend that you set clear defined, consistent rules and have healthy channels of two-way communication with your child. It is important to remember that being your child’s best friend is not what is best for them. With this type of parenting, referred to as the authoritative type, children show higher levels of self-esteem and independence, and are more likely to follow their parent’s requests (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p.
When I was watching all of the kids play together at recess I noticed that all of the boys were running around and playing physical activities and excluding the girls from their play. The girls would just stand around in groups or sometimes in pairs, showing high levels of gender self-segregation (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 256). When the boys and girls did interact with each other, it was very brief and usually involved teasing or chasing. This phenomenon of a brief boundary violation is known as a cross-gender encounter (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 257). This really made me wonder if this was a common occurrence among kids that age, so I researched it. I found that gender segregation is very common among this age and usually occurs because boys prefer rough and tumble play and girls do not, so boys tend to gather with other boys. Also, girls tend to like small social interactions so they tend to gravitate towards other girls (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 257). At that age, gender is very important in determining friends and the social circles of children but it is also clear that the children are also beginning to develop cognitive capabilities that allow them to understand that other factors are also important when seeking relationships (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. …show more content…
Parenting styles greatly affect the kind of person that we will eventually become. To have the best possible outcomes for their child it is important that parents show high levels of nurturance, clarity and consistency of rules, maturity demands, and communication. I learned through this program that being a best friend to your child may seem very attractive and easy, but it will not result in the best possible development of your child. It is crucial be high in all four areas if the most positive outcomes are desired. Another aspect of parenting that is important to consider is the type of attachment that the child has to the mother. Even if the parent has no money and the family lives in a poor, unsafe neighborhood, ultimately it is the parenting style that is significant for the development of the child (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p. 205). Therefore, when parenting, I recommend that you set clear defined, consistent rules and have healthy channels of two-way communication with your child. It is important to remember that being your child’s best friend is not what is best for them. With this type of parenting, referred to as the authoritative type, children show higher levels of self-esteem and independence, and are more likely to follow their parent’s requests (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p.