Essay On Parenting Paradox

One of the biggest offsets between a traditional family, and a gay family, is a change in the triadic structures. Explained by Fine and Fincham (2013) a triadic relationship is one involving the father, mother, and child, with traditional division of labor roles. In this type of relationship interaction is at the most when one member is removed and the relationship becomes dyadic. In a gay triadic relationship, the structure will be father, father, and child. Further research is essential to determine if there is a difference between the two family systems.
In 2013 an estimated 2 million children were being raised by homosexual couples (Erez, & Shenhman, 2016). In 2010 a survey revealed that only 7,100 adopted children were living with gay …show more content…
The “parenting paradox” is when a parents’ has to accept negative changes when becoming a parent, changes such as less sleep, working more, increase in marital conflict, and emotional concerns for the child. While at the same time finding a higher sense of purpose in life because of the child. Those opposite trends are what, Erez and Shenkman, refer to as the “parenting paradox”. What is most rousing, is that gay parent experience less of the negative effects, or perceive those events with less negativity when they become parents (Erez, & Shenkman, 2016). The belief is heterosexual parents and to an extent even lesbian parents’ see child rearing as a trivial task. A heterosexual couple can in most cases conceive their child with no outside regulations, and there is a variety of ways a lesbian couple can conceive with minimal outside intervention or regulations. But in order for a gay couple to become parents’ they must undergo the scrutiny of the adoption system. For this reason, the majority of gay couples embark on a purposeful and planed endeavor to receive a child (Erez, & Shenhman,