Can you imagine being married to someone that you cannot stand to be around? Now, imagine that you have children with this person. As a responsible adult, you must pretend that you do not want to turn in the opposite direction and run. For your children’s sake, you must stay and suffer quietly… right? That is completely wrong! Staying together for the children will only harm them by exposing them to constant conflict, which stresses the children out, gives them a negative opinion of marriage, and can possibly lead to them having failed marriages themselves.
If the above paragraph describes the situation that you are in, there are a few things you can do. Try going to marriage counseling, talk your religious leader, or a mediator. Give your …show more content…
According to Diana Divecha, Ph.D., there are many forms of harmful behavior: use of verbally aggressive behavior, name calling, threats; physical abuse, physical aggression, even against inanimate objects such as walls; unspoken methods such as storming out, locking one’s self away, and avoiding each other. When witnessing these types of behaviors, children can become stressed, which can echo into their academics. They can gain a feeling of hopelessness, or depression. Some even become violent themselves, at school as well as at home. Their sleep can be adversely affected along with other health problems, such as head or stomach aches. The effects can even go so far as to create problems in the relationships between siblings. They can become overly protective, some can become distant, or uninvolved. A study performed in 2002 by R. Repetti, S. Taylor, and T. Seeman from UCLA, went through 47 studies linking children in harsh family environments to having issues later in life. Children that grew up in homes with conflict were found to have more health problems, as well as social and emotional problems in their adult lives, than children raised in normal families, without constant conflict. It was shown that there were also more reports of immune issues, vascular problems and emotional disorders such as depression. Drug abuse and intimacy issues were also higher in these …show more content…
It does not only apply to words and phrases, it applies to their daily lives as well. Children pick up on a lot more than you think, even small things such as a change in mood, or the tension in the room. The behaviors you display in your home will set the stage for how your children will behave as adults. They learn what it means to be married, how to be a husband or wife and how to effectively (or ineffectively) deal with conflict in a relationship (Parents.com). How you and your spouse behave, is what they will believe to be normal, or acceptable in a marriage. Parent’s article goes on to say that over the course of day-in/day-out, year after year, these messages accumulate, and take root, increasing the likelihood that your kids will repeat the very same patterns they have seen in their home growing
If the above paragraph describes the situation that you are in, there are a few things you can do. Try going to marriage counseling, talk your religious leader, or a mediator. Give your …show more content…
According to Diana Divecha, Ph.D., there are many forms of harmful behavior: use of verbally aggressive behavior, name calling, threats; physical abuse, physical aggression, even against inanimate objects such as walls; unspoken methods such as storming out, locking one’s self away, and avoiding each other. When witnessing these types of behaviors, children can become stressed, which can echo into their academics. They can gain a feeling of hopelessness, or depression. Some even become violent themselves, at school as well as at home. Their sleep can be adversely affected along with other health problems, such as head or stomach aches. The effects can even go so far as to create problems in the relationships between siblings. They can become overly protective, some can become distant, or uninvolved. A study performed in 2002 by R. Repetti, S. Taylor, and T. Seeman from UCLA, went through 47 studies linking children in harsh family environments to having issues later in life. Children that grew up in homes with conflict were found to have more health problems, as well as social and emotional problems in their adult lives, than children raised in normal families, without constant conflict. It was shown that there were also more reports of immune issues, vascular problems and emotional disorders such as depression. Drug abuse and intimacy issues were also higher in these …show more content…
It does not only apply to words and phrases, it applies to their daily lives as well. Children pick up on a lot more than you think, even small things such as a change in mood, or the tension in the room. The behaviors you display in your home will set the stage for how your children will behave as adults. They learn what it means to be married, how to be a husband or wife and how to effectively (or ineffectively) deal with conflict in a relationship (Parents.com). How you and your spouse behave, is what they will believe to be normal, or acceptable in a marriage. Parent’s article goes on to say that over the course of day-in/day-out, year after year, these messages accumulate, and take root, increasing the likelihood that your kids will repeat the very same patterns they have seen in their home growing