Dating In The Digital Age

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The Digital age has given us more options and choices, but are those options and choices helping us? Over the years dating strategies have dramatically changed. Most people are trying to find their romantic partner and someone that will fit with their personality. It is not easy for most people to go and find their perfect match. In today 's society, technology has given people more opportunities to communicate with each other. There are so many dating apps, which people use to date and to search for their romantic partner. In Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari, which details a research project about the new dating strategies, Ansari compares the old ways of dating to the new methods of dating. The book details that the digital age has given us …show more content…
One of the major opportunities people have today is online dating. According to Ansari, Online dating today is one of the biggest ways people met their spouses, bigger than work, mutual friends, or school (79). Over the years, dating strategies have changed so much. In the past, people use to get arranged marriage, marry someone close to them, or marry someone from a daily routine job. Today, people meet online, have conversations before dating in person, and they have so many other options, such as talking/dating to more than one person on dating sites. Ansari also states that, today 's love for finding a romantic partner is massive (79). People date because they are trying to find the perfect mate. In the past, people didn 't really care who they 're getting married to. Instead, all they cared about was that the person they get married to should be able to support them financially. In search of a romantic partner people are trying to take advantage of all of those options they have today to find the best mate. Sociologist Michael Rosenfeld claims that, Online dating is dramatically more common among same-sex couples than any other way of meeting has ever been for heterosexual or same-sex couples in the past (Ansari 85). In the past, same-sex couples had a difficult time finding a partner, it 's because by looking at someone you can 't tell that if they are homosexual. For example, a gay guy can 't go up to a …show more content…
According to Ansari, “Asking someone out on a date is a simple task that frequently becomes a terrifying conundrum of fear, and anxiety. It’s full of tough decisions” (33). It is a reality that some people simply have a harder time than others to meet people and ask them out for a date. Having a hard time meeting someone does not mean that there is something wrong with a person, it’s just that they are afraid that they will get rejected. That’s is why today we have online dating that helps us to ask people out on a date, where if you even get rejected you simply won’t care because there are more profiles you could pick your next date from. Ansari tells us about his research in Japan, he tells us, men in japan are probably not comfortable around women in general and 50% of the single guys don’t have friends of opposite sex (160-161). Most people in japan, don’t have any opposite sex friends, which stops them from asking a girl out because they don’t feel comfortable around them and some men don’t ask becuase they have fear that they might get rejected, However, most people might never be able to ask a girl out, if they didn’t have more choices, like online dating. Where some people are good asking a girl out in person, others feel better and comfortable dating online. Online dating gives people a privacy and a comfortable zone , where two people communicate with each other and

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