It didn't dawn on me as to how much of a problem this was until I signed up as a 'girl' to advertise my online dating photography on Tinder. For a few months, I felt what it was like to be an attractive woman on an online dating platform. It was one of the biggest motivators to open up my services to help teach men on how to not suck at this as well. There were men, that made me even me so uncomfortable that I was forced to block them and they were the perfect candidate for my services. It made me realize that the vast majority of men do not know how to really interact with women in general.
I remember when I first signed up for Tinder, I performed at an open mic night doing stand-up comedy and my main topic of conversation was about how …show more content…
Do get me wrong, if a girl tells you to fuck off, don't sit there and try and convince her otherwise because that is never going to work. What I mean is, most of the times when a woman tells you 'no', she doesn't really know you. A fair amount of the time, she doesn't want to know you and that is okay. But she is not rejecting you based on the person you are and I see it time and time again that men take it personally. It is a huge hit to their ego. Your job is not to convince the woman, your job is to talk with enough women that are open and receptive to 'knowing' you. Her reception of strangers is the key to any success with women when doing it out of the blue. Just the same as you have a preference to the women you like, the same is true for women. That doesn't make them a 'bitch' or a 'c*nt', it makes them human. They have every right to not choose you, just the same as you have every right to try and choose her. When dealing with rejection, you have to ask yourself. Is there anything I can do about that today, to make her not want to reject me? At the end of the day this a very personal conversation you need to have with yourself. Whether it be your hygiene, your social skills, your attitude, your confidence, your mindset, or your own personal body image. You have to have a real conversation with yourself and ask, can I
I remember when I first signed up for Tinder, I performed at an open mic night doing stand-up comedy and my main topic of conversation was about how …show more content…
Do get me wrong, if a girl tells you to fuck off, don't sit there and try and convince her otherwise because that is never going to work. What I mean is, most of the times when a woman tells you 'no', she doesn't really know you. A fair amount of the time, she doesn't want to know you and that is okay. But she is not rejecting you based on the person you are and I see it time and time again that men take it personally. It is a huge hit to their ego. Your job is not to convince the woman, your job is to talk with enough women that are open and receptive to 'knowing' you. Her reception of strangers is the key to any success with women when doing it out of the blue. Just the same as you have a preference to the women you like, the same is true for women. That doesn't make them a 'bitch' or a 'c*nt', it makes them human. They have every right to not choose you, just the same as you have every right to try and choose her. When dealing with rejection, you have to ask yourself. Is there anything I can do about that today, to make her not want to reject me? At the end of the day this a very personal conversation you need to have with yourself. Whether it be your hygiene, your social skills, your attitude, your confidence, your mindset, or your own personal body image. You have to have a real conversation with yourself and ask, can I