Okonkwo And Nwoye Relationship Analysis

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Nwoye went from fearing his father to disobeying and flat out hating him. At first Nwoye was scared of his father growing up because Okonkwo wanted Nwoye to not be like his father. Okonkwo beats Nwoye when he makes mistakes and when Nwoye wanted to stay around his mother. Then after the death of Ikemefuna Nwoye feeling angry towards his father. Nwoye went from fearing his father to disobeying and flat out hating him.The relationship between Nwoye and Okonkwo hasn’t been the ideal father son relationship Okonkwo wanted it to be.

Okonkwo is described as a man who rules his house with a heavy hand his wives and children suffer for not being as strong as him. “Okonkwo’s oldest first son, Nwoye, was then twelve years old but was already causing his father great anxiety for his incipient laziness. At any rate, that was how it looked to his father, and he sought to correct him by constant nagging and beating. And so Nwoye was developing into a sad-faced youth.” In this quote from chapter 2 page 13 this shows Nwoye's fear early in the book and Okonkwo’s pressure on Nwoye to be strong and tough like him”
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In chapter 16 when Okonkwo's friend Obierika spotted Nwoye he asked “How is your father” and Nwoye answered “I don't know. He is not my father” This show Nwoye's disobedience towards his father and his readiness to break ties with his father, Okonkwo. On page 126 Okonkwo's cousin saw Nwoye at the church and told Okonkwo who was so overcome with rage that he demanded where he was. And he beat Nwoye until Okonkwo's uncle stopped him and after the fight with his father. Nwoye left and never came back and became fully committed to the church and changed his name to Isaac. This took a toll on Okonkwo on page 142 he asks his Ezinma to marry someone from Umuofia. He says this because he’s trying to compensate for Nwoye so his family name won't become “poor and

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