While researching Non violent communication I found a pdf that really helped. It is located here, it gave some examples of statements to use and clearly outlined the four step process.
As I have said previously I am not a leader at this time, but I have been and hopefully I will have the opportunity to be so again in the future. However, the SCARF model and the NVC (non-violent communication) principals can be applied to many areas of life. Reflecting on my communication as both a leader and in normal life, I can see that I have not been as empathetic as I should, nor have used either of these models very much.
In fact I have learned much about the process of communication from reading these and I can apply some of these principals to my communication here at the University which should only help me in the future.
According to the NVC principals, I need to clearly express myself without blaming others or being critical. This would have been useful when my children were younger, instead of …show more content…
My boss has decorated the entire space in the office including a sign that says my office my rules, and even hanging a blackboard in the area directly behind my desk. Moreover, this blackboard placement requires people to actually step into my private area. I feel as though I should take control of my space and move the blackboard, because I resent the fact that she and her son step behind me and write on the blackboard, it is my private area and it feels like an invasion. So I plan to gently I explain my feelings and tell her I feel like a visitor and as though I am not welcome. Furthermore, I will explain that by moving the blackboard, I will feel at least this area is my own. Subsequently, I believe that I will feel some autonomy over my area at least and will give me a feeling of control, being the secretary means I have no decisions about anything that happens and often I feel left out (Rock, 2008,
As I have said previously I am not a leader at this time, but I have been and hopefully I will have the opportunity to be so again in the future. However, the SCARF model and the NVC (non-violent communication) principals can be applied to many areas of life. Reflecting on my communication as both a leader and in normal life, I can see that I have not been as empathetic as I should, nor have used either of these models very much.
In fact I have learned much about the process of communication from reading these and I can apply some of these principals to my communication here at the University which should only help me in the future.
According to the NVC principals, I need to clearly express myself without blaming others or being critical. This would have been useful when my children were younger, instead of …show more content…
My boss has decorated the entire space in the office including a sign that says my office my rules, and even hanging a blackboard in the area directly behind my desk. Moreover, this blackboard placement requires people to actually step into my private area. I feel as though I should take control of my space and move the blackboard, because I resent the fact that she and her son step behind me and write on the blackboard, it is my private area and it feels like an invasion. So I plan to gently I explain my feelings and tell her I feel like a visitor and as though I am not welcome. Furthermore, I will explain that by moving the blackboard, I will feel at least this area is my own. Subsequently, I believe that I will feel some autonomy over my area at least and will give me a feeling of control, being the secretary means I have no decisions about anything that happens and often I feel left out (Rock, 2008,