Not only did Noah and Brian struggle with accepting a part of themselves, Noah’s sister, Jude, also struggled with acceptance of herself. Jude and her mom were always fighting about who Jude was turning into. “What someone says to you right before they die will come true (I was on my way to a party and she said to me: “Do you really want to be that girl?” and pointed to my reflection in the mirror. It was the night before she died.)” (Nelson 46). Jude’s mom said Jude was developing undesirable characteristics. Dianna told Jude she was becoming a low-grade and a slovenly young woman. “I believe that there is something in the separation and identification process between mothers and daughters that makes the daughter’s struggle for independence
