The most important rules she broke was sex before marriage and having a child before marriage. The thing is that is most likely it was not her choice to have sex before marriage because back then in the Chinese culture, there was a lack of female power. This was referenced in the reading on paragraph 15 when the author said " My aunt could not have been the lone romantic who gave up everything for sex. Women in the old China did not choose. Some man had commanded her to lie with him and be his secret evil. I wonder whether he masked himself when he joined the raid on her family." It was also acknowledged that the lack of power females had at that time was laughable when in paragraph 16 the author said " .....His demand must have surprised, then terrified her. She obeyed him; she always did as she was told." This quote was just a sad realization for woman at the time. The other conflict that took place in the story was that she was basically abandoned by her own family. In the story, the author states on paragraph 47 " The real punishment was not the raid swiftly inflicted by the villagers, but the family 's deliberately forgetting her." The author also infers in the same paragraph that she was an embarrassment to the family when she says " We say …show more content…
In her story, the author compares her life to before and after her accident. When the author was eight years old, a BB gun penetrated her eye. The incident left a once confident, cute and outgoing girl with a destroyed self esteem. The most important conflict that she confronts in her life is herself, this is because she has such a low self esteem. In the story she states on paragraph 14 " For six years I do not stare at anyone, because I do not raise my head." This is a very important quote because in life when a person rarely lifts their head that usually means that they have little to no confidence. The author also states on paragraph 15 " .....I ask my mother and sister whether I changed after the " accident." " No," they say, puzzled. " What do you mean?" This hints that she did not feel confident in herself and could have potentially hinted that she had BDD which is a disorder that makes a person see herself way different than what everyone sees her as. The other major conflict is how society bullies her just of how her eye looks. She states on paragraph 20 " What 's the matter with your eye?" they ask, critically. When I don 't answer ( I cannot decide whether it was an " accident" or not), they shove me, insist on a fight." She then states on paragraph 23 " After months of torture at school, my parents decide to send me back to our old