Neukrug In Characteristics Of The Effective Helper

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Neukrug in Characteristics of the Effective Helper posed several interesting points while posing his findings on counselor effectiveness. Since I am at the very beginning of my counseling journey, it is my duty to dive deep into myself so I can transition my strengths and weaknesses as an individual and apply them into a professional helping role. According to my self-confidences, and what peers have expressed to me, I believe my strengths to lie within empathy, acceptance and open-mindedness. On the other hand, my weaknesses seem to be genuineness and competence. To start with, empathy comes fairly easy to me since I enjoy thoroughly enjoy listening to the problems of others. Individuals from my closest friends to strangers on the street …show more content…
Empathy and understanding are easy for me to express, but to be transparent about my own emotions is difficult. As far back as I can remember I have had trouble expressing my personal problems to others, which may be a reason I prefer listening. Hearing others tribulations can be relatable and therapeutic, but there is a fear of communicating my own. I am currently working on this weakness and will need to continue to in order to be a better friend, family member and even counselor. To state the obvious, since I am at the beginning of my counseling journey I am strengthening my competence through education and experience. Knowledge needs to be tackled first in order to grow as an effective helper, but also needs to continuously be tackled. Not only studying the history of counseling, but continuing to learn modern developments will be crucial for myself and my …show more content…
If I am not willing to share some helpful personal experiences to the client, then why should they open up to me? Neukrug explained the absence of genuineness could come across as fake to the client since the counselor does not express appropriate emotion. Furthermore, if I do not take my education seriously and gain continuous counseling knowledge then clients could doubt my ability to help them. It is important that I expand my comprehension and have enough information to be flexible with counseling styles to help every client. I am currently working on my fear of expression with a counselor and have set goals regarding my genuineness. Also, I am working every single day on my competence through scholarly reading and attending counseling

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