Negative Consequences Of Changing For Others

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As Dr. Seuss so wisely states, “Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” People shouldn’t change who they are for others, even if that person’s the opposite gender. Changing for others can have major negative consequences. In the story The Bass, The River, and Sheila Mant, by W.D. Wetherell, the main character, a young boy who loves fishing, does just that. Changing for others isn’t going to help a person get through life easier. Someone could pay a major price for changing just to impress. The boy in the story finds out it really isn’t worth changing and also pays the price, which haunts him for the rest of his life.
Changing to make others like a person, or to impress them,

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