Narcissists And NPD Essay

The single most frustrating issue with regard to dealing with narcissists and people with NPD is specifically the fact that you cannot deal with the core issue. Of all the personality disorders and all the conditions that require therapy or professional input, people with NPD are least likely to seek counsel. The nature of their condition is to believe they are perfect, that nobody can tell them what to do, and that they can justify anything they say or do. So addressing the core issue - that they do need therapy to help them understand themselves and the effect their behaviour has on others better - would mean that they are “at fault” and that they are admitting to be less than perfect and untouchable.
As others have done too, I have tried to fight for justice, I have tried to make the courts see the damage my ex-husband was doing to his children, I had proof of his underhanded dealings, of money he basically stole from me and later even from his own children, and even psychological assessments only made the courts rule that the children should be …show more content…
This is probably the most pro-active step you can take. Most people are oblivious to this hidden abuse, and narcissists are masters at manipulating people. They can come across as charming, witty, and even warm. I have found that giving people practical examples works best - they need to relate to whatever you are telling them. Like how a NPD father was upset with his young daughter for being admitted to ICU because of all the levies and extra costs, and punishing her by withholding money for school, extra-murals, etc. Or making an autistic child scream so he can manipulate someone into doing what he wants. But whatever you decide to do, just don’t make contact again, and don’t try to beat people like these at their own game - you will need to think and act like they do, and you don’t want to go there. Rather expose their “techniques” and warn