Personal Narrative-Differentiation In My Family System

My family background as a surrogate father to six younger siblings has prepared me to listen compassionately and give advice as needed. Also, in my capacity as a nursing home minister I have had the opportunity to reach out to lonely and confused patients. The role of pastoral counselor is, of course, much broader and much more inclusive as far as the needs of prospective clients are concerned. What I have read and learned it has been clear that it is not enough to be counselor. A family system has a critical and unique role to pay within the system. No matter setting looks like the same system. Now within this system I see myself under the scale of differentiation subtitle extended family with one tribe. What I mean by tribe? According to the dictionary definition: it is a social division in a traditional society consisting of families or …show more content…
My extended family I may not expect any appreciation of my self- differentiation because my parent are consider me to live a life of poverty and therefore are not valued as a family member that can bring wealth to the clan. I hope self-differentiation bless me with the spiritual wealth which I receive from God. I consider my background helpful for pastoral counseling. Through the lack of love and care I experienced as a child and adolescent and the overwhelming responsibilities thrust upon me, I have a tender and compassionate heart for hurting and abused people. I understand homeostasis and self- differentiation. I know what it looks like to be a self- differentiation. I have experienced neglect, fear, oppression, and anxiety and faced the possibility of death many times over. I have a healthy distrust of people who want to take advantage of me. I am still working on an accurate evaluation of my experiences in the area of trust. I am not sure that all the wounds have healed properly. I am looking forward to greater clarity as a result of this