After been married for over a year communication sometimes seems to be the most complicate part of the relationship. In particular I am addressing the discussion to the simple fact that we cannot find a suitable movie to watch together without first get into an argument. It seems not be a big issue, but my husband does not like to watch black American movies and the fact that I am black that can be sometimes confrontational. At least for me is very disturbing. At first he did not realized it and I was not sure how to approach of the situation.
The problem is that I love black American movies and he does not. Most likely I use what (Adler &Proctor) states, “at time like this, you may need temporarily remove yourself from the situation so you don’t say or do something you’ll later regret” (369). However win-win situation sometimes does not work very well. I could not handle the situation for too long , so eventually my mood changed and I let him pick whatever movie he wants watch and I watch my movies later on when he is not around. …show more content…
There we could approach to my each other with my request to solve the problem. In addition, there we had the opportunity to bring all the differences and eventually I learn that I also impose on him some restrictions about what movies he do likes to watch. I could understand his viewpoint and he understood mine. We come to an agreement of who picks the movie by calendar date. The agreement was to watch together any movie regardless of the type depending of the calendar dates. On odds days’ date is my movie choice; on even days’ dates is his day of pick the movie. That was our alternative
The problem is that I love black American movies and he does not. Most likely I use what (Adler &Proctor) states, “at time like this, you may need temporarily remove yourself from the situation so you don’t say or do something you’ll later regret” (369). However win-win situation sometimes does not work very well. I could not handle the situation for too long , so eventually my mood changed and I let him pick whatever movie he wants watch and I watch my movies later on when he is not around. …show more content…
There we could approach to my each other with my request to solve the problem. In addition, there we had the opportunity to bring all the differences and eventually I learn that I also impose on him some restrictions about what movies he do likes to watch. I could understand his viewpoint and he understood mine. We come to an agreement of who picks the movie by calendar date. The agreement was to watch together any movie regardless of the type depending of the calendar dates. On odds days’ date is my movie choice; on even days’ dates is his day of pick the movie. That was our alternative