Relationship Insecurity: A Personal Analysis

I began my WOOP by identifying my wish, a wish that I really have been trying to conquer for a while. I want to be able to talk to my boyfriend, or even best friends, openly about things that bother me. I wanted to be able to communicate with them without the fear of being judged or questioned for how I felt. The outcome that I kept in my mind was the bettering of our relationship and strengthening our trust. I truly took my time to think about how much this could benefit us and how good it would be for our future. The obstacle section of this exercise is what really gets to me; there are many obstacles for me and just thinking of one was starting to hurt my optimism. My biggest obstacle is I assume that they are going to get mad at me for …show more content…
Their article discusses how having “relationship insecurity” is actually based on the constant behaviors and feelings of both people in the relationship, even if only one of them is truly insecure. This made me question why I was so afraid to discuss my beliefs and feelings with my boyfriend, even if it was just me assuming things. This article made me realize that not only do his behaviors while I am trying my best to talk make me feel like he does not care, but his tone of voice does the same. I do understand that it is my own issue that I struggle with, but it was necessary for him to realize how important it was for me to conquer it. After the long week, and many sit downs of silence and struggle for me to say what I had to say, my point got across and it has already seemed to improve so …show more content…
I used to do “writing assignments” where I would write an open letter regarding any emotions I felt during that week that I never truly got the experience to express. I would take them to my therapist and she would just simply ask me to tell her what in that exact moment made me feel like I could not tell my loved one what I was feeling. I eventually got very good with telling my family and very close friends my thoughts and feelings, but dealing with a romantic relationship was different for me. Love is give and take, and exercising WOOP really let me ease my way into how I would go about talking to my loved one. I had the same end effect that I did with my therapist, but instead I feel stronger because I was able to conquer it on my own time and