The Importance Of Expectations Of Their Children

Expectations are part of human experience regardless of age, gender, and race. All parents have expectations of their children. On the contrary, children have their own expectations too. Expectations are like rules; you have to follow the rules, then your parents are going to get happier as success gets closer to you. Though the goal of countless expectations from the standpoint of parent is to create path for their children, it can be complex and very different from what the children expect from themselves. I was born and grew up in the totally different atmosphere what I am living now. My parents also set up their expectations as soon as I was born or may be even before I was born. They strived to push me …show more content…
My mother took me to specialized school. During the early years of elementary school, I got off to a weak start in the education system. My mother used to question me every evening about my homework, quiz, and my grades. I used to hear my questions of expectations from her on a weekly basis growing up following the middle school and the high school. She would demand me to nail all subjects, whereas, I considered to become an interpreter I only needed to do best at my foreign languages and communication skills. As soon as it became apparent to my parents that I would not show my own motivation, their expectation were laid on the table. With a serious look on her face, I would hear especially my mom express her emotion and motivation in regards of my future. Unlikely, then I would dream about being a soccer player growing as one of the tallest and strongest girls in my class. But, there was no room for my soccer training classes, no time for going to see my grandparents in my daily schedule. Beyond the stringent expectations my culture places on me in respect to school, my public image was also set by my parents. Growing up I was so upbeat, talkative, gregarious, and extroverted girl. On the contrary my mother has always wanted me to be serious. To be exact she wanted me to look like to my sister who’s always been shy and introverted. …show more content…
In our culture and religion, an unmarried girl must be virgin when she gets married. I was told what my parents expect of me and clearly, that they wanted me not to have sex with anyone before I get married, through the life changings I have gone through, the internalization of these expectations has composed who I am today. Even 3 years ago when my sister got married I came to know she was still virgin which made my mom really thankful of it. Unlikely, I was never serious about virginity and I already lost it. As I reflect back on my past, I feel every second of my life had been spent in trouble-free environments, one in which everything I did put my parents on shame due to their different